Miscarriage support

That's great news athensgeorgia. I find my counselling really helpful, and I'm sure it's not for everyone, but it's good that you are finding it beneficial. They are quite sneaky these counsellors, you think you are just chatting but they totally have you sussed, lol

Glad to hear you are feeling a bit more positive athensgeorgia.

Interested to see how helpful you and Tamvilla80 have found counselling. I am leaning towards asking the gp about it.

saver-j wrote: »

Glad to hear you are feeling a bit more positive athensgeorgia.

Interested to see how helpful you and Tamvilla80 have found counselling. I am leaning towards asking the gp about it.

I attended my third session last night. I'm not sure if this is national or just the provider I have gone with but I get 7 sessions for free and if I would like any further sessions they're paid for.

As this is only my third session I can only give you feedback from what I have experienced so far. When I MC, it felt like the end of the world. I had so many unanswered questions and feelings I was struggling to deal with. Don't get me wrong I'm still not quite 'me' but I also feel the counselling is helping me. I know it doesn't help everybody but I already know I'm glad I went ahead.

The first session I spent the whole time talking about the MC and crying, second was half the MC and other things and last night was hardly any of the MC. I've been shown things in a totally different perspective than how I was seeing them and I feel it's helping me in life in general and not just the MC.

I would say make the referral or ask your GP to (in my area we do it ourselves), and give it a try. If you feel anything like I did after my MC nothing could feel worse but hopefully you'll gain from it. In our area there's an 8 - 10 week waiting list, so I'd advise you to refer now and if you feel it's not for you when you get a place don't attend.

HTH.

saver-j did you get my pm about the acupuncture?! Can't see my response in my sent items - if not let me know I'll resend the link x

It's pregnancy and baby loss awareness week. That has made me want to come back to post again here because after my miscarriage earlier this year I found reading this entire thread so helpful that I wanted other people to be aware of it and make use of it too if they find it helpful.


AnotherJoe suggested I updated in a few months. Well it's been about 6 since I last posted here.
I did have counselling over the summer and think it really helped me. I still get upset about it and struggle with my emotions sometimes, but I'm not down all the time any more, and I started to let myself think about the real future again, not just the should have been future that I think I got stuck thinking about for a while. I also think it helped me through a subsequent loss which I have found less traumatic even though it's still relatively early days and I am still finding my way after it.

I am really identifying with the message of the awareness week about breaking the silence which seems to surround pregnancy and baby loss. Until it happened to me I had no idea how common pregnancy and baby loss was. Not only that but it was only when I have told people that people have opened up about their losses too and there are so many.

Not everyone around me knows about my miscarriages but one thing I really struggled with was when people who did stopped asking how I was, when it was still the thing I thought about most of the day most days. Partly my fault as I didn't like to bring it up myself either. I also really do understand that people don't know what to say, but perhaps if it was talked about more people would, or at least wouldn't be so scared to ask how you are.

I hope anyone reading is doing ok, my thoughts are with each of you.