Money Moral Dilemma: Should we share in sister-in-law's cashback?

Unless you actively use these services yourself you're not actually losing out on anything allowing your sister-in-law to do this. It's such a small reward as well you'd probably be embarrassed to receive it if you asked for your 'share'.
It's also worth pointing out both these rewards take time to actually be cash in your sister-in-laws hand so she will still be paying full price for the goods herself at time of purchase.
If it really bothers you take the time and do these things yourself rather than causing bad feelings between you and your sister-in-law asking for a share of the reward.

As I see it, you have two choices, One put up and shut up or Two go and do your own shopping etc on your own.

Next time the matter arises, state assertively that you intend to pay the bills this time, and thence every second time. If she objects, she will actually have to say why on every occasion she wants to pay and get refunded in cash. She will thus expose herself as the money-grabbing, make-money-off-her-own-family, devious creature that you strongly suspect her to be.

(If you feel really strongly about the matter, you could always try to arrange things so that she becomes an ex-sister-in-law?!)

She is doing all the work and you are begrudging her a small amount that she happens to get by careful use of her cards.
Get a life and don't come near me. I only want to meet nice people.

happyinflorida wrote: »

If it's your sis in law you've got a problem making a fuss about this because family can cause hell.

If you get on well with her you could try asking her about this - if it's bothering you, if it doesn't bother you - leave well alone!

My sis in law is like this - we got - AS OUR WEDDING PRESENT - a tv which she'd got free for all her sales in cosmetics!

Our wedding car - was a loan car from the garage where my bro-in-law worked, I was made to write a thank you card during my wedding reception, the card I had to provide as well - can you believe it?!

We paid for all the food and drink at the reception as well - I have nothing to do with his family now, got so sick of them all over the years, after 9 yrs I broke ties with the lot of them!

Hold the phone. Your sister-in-law gave you a TV for your wedding present? And then of all the injustice your brother-in-law managed to get you your wedding car for [STRIKE]free[/STRIKE] the cost of a £2(ish) card and he then further humiliated you by forcing you to pen a quick thank you ON YOUR WEDDING DAY!

You must be a saint. I really don't know how you coped on day 1, let alone the following 9 years. And you say they were like this regularly? How very dare they! You must have been crying yourself to sleep every night from the injustice whilst watching that disgustingly vulgar TV.

I am sure now [STRIKE]they no longer want anything to do with you[/STRIKE] you have broken all ties [STRIKE]they are so much happier[/STRIKE] you will somehow manage to rebuild yourself. Do you know what you should do? Go and buy your sister-in-law a TV and THEN pay your brother-in-law however much it would have been to hire a wedding car! Surely you wouldn't want anyone to think you had benefited from their deceitful nature. Oh how you will be able to laugh at them.

Anyway .. OP. It's already been said. I have never understood why family especially get so pent up over a few pence. Seriously? Either learn from her initiative and ask her about getting set-up with your own cashback account and card or let it go.