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Neighbours ball damaging fence.

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  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    I disagree. It's life if it happens 1/2 times and is then rectified - after that it's nuisance and nonsense.

    If I had a hobby that lobbed random items into the gardens of neighbours, after the second time I'd be standing and scratching my head thinking "This isn't right. I must fix this. I can't be a nuisance to people and I dislike going and asking to retrieve it".... and I'd work out a solution so that I wasn't lobbing random items into the gardens of others.

    It's the thin end of the wedge when it comes to disrespect. Disrespect for others, for the rights of others, for social cohesion and community spirit. It's verging on feral ... and the kid is being taught poor citizenship skills.



    Citizenship? What fish, chips, 2 pints and a fight?


    Children playing in their garden and not causing trouble on the streets? Hooligans!
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    mollycat wrote: »
    It's not nonsense, it's legitimate problem involving someone's right to a reasonable use of their amenities.

    Exactly the type of pro-active policing that probably saves them work in the long term.

    What would you rather they were doing, paperwork?



    I'd rather people at least made the effort to resolve CIVIL disputes, where no crime has been committed, without involving the police.
  • PasturesNew
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    "They're children...."

    So where is the responsible adult? Behind every child is a responsible adult teaching, allowing, condoning, condemning or encouraging all behaviours.

    The irresponsible adult in this case is enabling and allowing this behaviour. This is what I call: Bad Parenting.

    Arrogance, a heightened sense of entitlement and downright bl00dy minded rudeness.

    I hope he's got grass.... else his knuckles will hurt on gravel.
  • Davesnave
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    Guest101 wrote: »
    Or, and it's radical, but it just might work.... go and talk to them yourselves.....
    I thought that had been tried....
    PhilE wrote: »
    Well, tea and cake didn't work. Another neighbor has also asked him, which hasn't solved anything
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    Davesnave wrote: »
    I thought that had been tried....



    But that doesn't mean the next step is the police!
  • PasturesNew
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    Guest101 wrote: »
    But that doesn't mean the next step is the police!

    The OP is distant/absent.
    The OP has tried an approach.
    The OP's mother's neighbour has tried, to no avail.
    The OP's mother is elderly/frightened/intimidated and/or doesn't possess the physical/verbal/bully-fight-back skills to go bang on the door and get it resolved.

    What IS the next step then?

    For PCSOs this is "right up their street" ... plodding about looking for minor nuisances and dealing with the small/mundane stuff.
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    The OP is distant/absent.
    The OP has tried an approach.
    The OP's mother's neighbour has tried, to no avail.
    The OP's mother is elderly/frightened/intimidated and/or doesn't possess the physical/verbal/bully-fight-back skills to go bang on the door and get it resolved.

    What IS the next step then?

    For PCSOs this is "right up their street" ... plodding about looking for minor nuisances and dealing with the small/mundane stuff.


    Ok, let's just assume the PCSO is the correct next step. What powers do they have to enforce this kind of thing?
  • m0bov
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    Anti Social Behaviour Order
  • PasturesNew
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    Guest101 wrote: »
    Ok, let's just assume the PCSO is the correct next step. What powers do they have to enforce this kind of thing?

    The authority to explain that it's not acceptable - and, with that authority, for the message to possibly be taken on board.

    The power to send the clear message that "things can and will be done".

    The power to show a bully/nuisance that there are bigger/badder people out there than themselves who are prepared to knock on their door and say "Oi!! No".
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    The authority to explain that it's not acceptable - and, with that authority, for the message to possibly be taken on board.

    The power to send the clear message that "things can and will be done". - What things?

    The power to show a bully/nuisance that there are bigger/badder people out there than themselves who are prepared to knock on their door and say "Oi!! No".
    And get told to 'f off' no doubt. There is no crime taking place here. By that logic, the police involvement is not required.
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