How to stop crying at a funeral

bellamonkey wrote: »

Thank you so much everyone. I know it's ok to cry, but I can't stop when I get started. You are a lovely bunch of people and some really sweet replies. I will let you know how it goes.

Hpe all goes well. I'm a sobber so know how you feel. My tip is lfocus on something above eye level in the distance - that way you can listen but somehow feel a bit detached - avoid eye contact with anyone who might 'set you off' and if the worrst comes to the worst, stick your finger nails into your hands. Beware tho - this can leave marks on your hands for the rest of the day if you do it too much ;-)

I cry too - seems there are a lot of us about.;)

I lost a really good friend last year (51) and cried all the way through. I felt terrible because her partner, sister, B-I-L, nephew etc all managed not to. I know it's nothing to be ashamed of, but if they can all manage it why can't I?

Take a pair of dark glasses, in addition to your hankies and Rescue Remedy pastilles or liquid drops. On occasions when I have not been too bad at funerals I try and avoid looking at the closest relatives because I can't bear seeing their distress and that sets me off.

I am also quite emotional at funerals. Recently I want to my aunties funeral and my dad commented that it was the younger generation that found the service most difficult. Possibly he was referring to my cousins and I and I did feel like a bit embarrassed as I try not to be too emotional in public but surely a funeral is an ok place to cry? I was coping ok until my cousin (aunties son) spoke about his mum and was having a difficult time keeping it together and that was it I was gone. Surely crying helps with the grieving process and people who are there all cared about the person who passed regardless of their outward reactions.

bellamonkey wrote: »

Would just like to say a big thank you to everyone who replied to my call of help. It was all very useful information. Luckily it was a bright day so wore sunglasses, which I felt hid some of my tears. I drank lots of camomile tea before I went and took Bach Remedy lotion (I think I nearly finished the bottle). Also looking slightly upwards did help hold some of the tears back. It was a very sad day but was helped by all you lovely people. Yes, and 'It is Ok to cry a funerals'. I still sobbed my heart out, but it didn't matter.

Pleased to know that you got through it okay x Tears are very healing and do help the grieving process. x x Take care X X

WEll I think we're all the same - I cry at the thought of funerals however - a priest once gave me a tip - he told me to count all the flowers one by one in the church if I didnt feel I could cope!

Kind of works!!!!!!!!!!!!