Probationary period - failing to meet job

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  • Mov
    Mov Posts: 21 Forumite
    muskoka wrote: »
    Horrendous. I so feel for this poor guy. With support levels like this, no wonder he is having problems. I hope he's got somebody with a little more compassion and humility to talk to.

    blah blah blah.
    Shall I get him to call you?
  • dmg24
    dmg24 Posts: 33,925 Forumite
    Mov wrote: »
    Thanks but my job is very specialist and there are no jobs out there. Also, I love my job and have worked hard to get where I am, so no way I would be willing to give that up. (read into that what you will...)

    This post summarises everything you have written in this thread - everything is about you. Quick reality check - there are three of you in your family, stop being so self absorbed and think about others for a change.
    Mov wrote: »
    blah blah blah.
    Shall I get him to call you?

    I know of a man who had a wife just like you. She wore him down to the point where he thought he was useless. Thankfully others saw his positive qualities, and made him realise that he was worth so much more. He left her, and is doing so much better both at work and in his private life. Is that what you want?
    Gone ... or have I?
  • Mov
    Mov Posts: 21 Forumite
    dmg24 wrote: »
    This post summarises everything you have written in this thread - everything is about you. Quick reality check - there are three of you in your family, stop being so self absorbed and think about others for a change.



    I know of a man who had a wife just like you. She wore him down to the point where he thought he was useless. Thankfully others saw his positive qualities, and made him realise that he was worth so much more. He left her, and is doing so much better both at work and in his private life. Is that what you want?

    Don't you get it? It isn't about me it is about HIM! He has put US in yet another stressful financial situation. That includes HIM, me and OUR baby.
    AND I state again - his WORK has pointed out the huge amounts of problems with him NOT me. If you had read the report I very much doubt you would have the same level of sympathy.
    AND I will say again. I am not at all interested in anything other than constructive advice on how to move on from this in terms of HELPING him to get through the next month and then if that doesn't work HELPING him to pick himself back up again and getting yet another job.
    When somebody keeps repeating the same mistakes over and over again I think I am well within my rights to be fed up of the situation, particularly when he promised me it wouldn't happen again.
  • dmg24
    dmg24 Posts: 33,925 Forumite
    Mov wrote: »
    Don't you get it? It isn't about me it is about HIM! He has put US in yet another stressful financial situation. That includes HIM, me and OUR baby.
    AND I state again - his WORK has pointed out the huge amounts of problems with him NOT me. If you had read the report I very much doubt you would have the same level of sympathy.
    AND I will say again. I am not at all interested in anything other than constructive advice on how to move on from this in terms of HELPING him to get through the next month and then if that doesn't work HELPING him to pick himself back up again and getting yet another job.
    When somebody keeps repeating the same mistakes over and over again I think I am well within my rights to be fed up of the situation, particularly when he promised me it wouldn't happen again.

    I get it completely - I have read all of your posts, and you come across as someone who enjoys putting others down. Everything that motivates you is centred around you, and this selfishness must have a terrible impact on him.

    Why don't you look at ways to help him, rather than continually belittling him?
    Gone ... or have I?
  • taxi97w
    taxi97w Posts: 1,526 Forumite
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    Not advice exactly but...In any relationship, if you put expectations on the other person, YOU will one day be let down. If there are no expectations expected from the other person, you wont be let down.
    This is all about you I'm afraid, your expectations, and what you want.
    more dollar$ than sense
  • Mov
    Mov Posts: 21 Forumite
    dmg24 wrote: »
    I get it completely - I have read all of your posts, and you come across as someone who enjoys putting others down. Everything that motivates you is centred around you, and this selfishness must have a terrible impact on him.

    Why don't you look at ways to help him, rather than continually belittling him?

    Why do you think I posted in the first place (duh!). If you had bothered to read the first post then you would have noticed that I was looking for advice on how he can move on from this terrible position.
    You obviously need to find something better with your time to do rather than commenting on situations that have nothing to do with you. Yup, I am rude to you too!
  • taxi97w
    taxi97w Posts: 1,526 Forumite
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    To think anyone can be a mother- frightening really.
    more dollar$ than sense
  • Mov
    Mov Posts: 21 Forumite
    Thanks to all the responses that gave me positive and constructive means of helping OH and helping me and him move on from this.
    And to the !!!!!y/snidey comments from people, let me assure you that they have done nothing more than waste my time and make me laugh!!! I think you all need to get out more and maybe look at your own lives before passing judgement on others.
    bye
  • Mov
    Mov Posts: 21 Forumite
    taxi97w wrote: »
    To think anyone can be a mother- frightening really.

    Oh, one last !!!!!y comment before I sign off for good! love it.
  • hethmar
    hethmar Posts: 10,678 Forumite
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    Please dont think Im criticising, but what did you see in him which made you want to be with him and have children in the first place? He must have plus points that you saw and liked. Can you work on those to sort out his next move with him?
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