Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

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  • Munchkin84
    Munchkin84 Posts: 387 Forumite
    I must admit behind closed doors I have been upset at it.
    It also doesn't help that we're asked a lot "when are you getting married?, when are you having children"?
    We're early 30's been together four years and just bought a house so we are asked it a lot and I'm still putting on the brave face and continuing with the "not yet" or "we aren't" (which was the truth for a long time)
    But it's getting harder not to get upset. Maybe I've gone about it wrong, maybe we should have told people we're trying but I really didn't want to. I didn't want any added pressure.
    Sorry, I'm rambling now.
  • Munchkin84 wrote: »
    It also doesn't help that we're asked a lot "when are you getting married?, when are you having children"?
    We're early 30's been together four years and just bought a house so we are asked it a lot and I'm still putting on the brave face and continuing with the "not yet" or "we aren't" (which was the truth for a long time)

    We get that too - although we're closer to mid than early 30s. I'm still able to laugh it off and say "we'll see" or similar, but if anything were to go wrong I think it would probably leave me in tears at work, and which point I'd just come out with the truth. Hopefully it will never get to that.

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    I'm holding off testing until tomorrow morning (unless I give in tonight) - 1 day overdue at the moment and desperately willing AF to stay away.
  • newthrift
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  • newthrift
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    Just popping quick to say I usually find that if its someone I knew quite well although it hurts a bit and sometimes I have a down moment I just get on with it and anyone else I either ignore it or think humpff then move on. I find for me personally it doesn't do me any good to dwell on it and get upset, which is sometimes easier said than done.
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  • Munchkin84 wrote: »
    I must admit behind closed doors I have been upset at it.
    It also doesn't help that we're asked a lot "when are you getting married?, when are you having children"?
    We're early 30's been together four years and just bought a house so we are asked it a lot and I'm still putting on the brave face and continuing with the "not yet" or "we aren't" (which was the truth for a long time)
    But it's getting harder not to get upset. Maybe I've gone about it wrong, maybe we should have told people we're trying but I really didn't want to. I didn't want any added pressure.
    Sorry, I'm rambling now.

    Sounds like we have identical lives Munchkin. I think not being married gives us that extra reason for no kids yet, as I just answer saying we want to be married first (we don't now but no-one has to know that). I think couples who are married seem to be constantly asked the question about babies. I don't know how they deal with it when it's been a battle for a while, must be really hard.
  • Munchkin84
    Munchkin84 Posts: 387 Forumite
    I'm using the "it took us ten years to get together, don't hold your breath" line.
    Thank you for listening, just felt a bit down earlier and it felt like everyone was pregnant all of a sudden and with the other half being the other side of the world for work so I can't speak to him much I needed someone to talk to.
  • Hi all, well I appear to have made it half way through my first ever 2 week wait! Luckily being 29 and only very recently married I don't seem to have some the pressures others are facing. I do feel for you; it must be horrible. Think we will be allowed at least a year before anyone starts asking questions. I do hope it's enough of a head start!

    With regards testing, should I wait until my period is definitely late or test on the day I'm expecting it? The longer I can wait the better, I guess?
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  • I would wait until you're definitely late, otherwise it's just a wasted test. As some others here have experienced, testing later reduces the risk of a positive 'chemical' pregnancy.
  • Good advice firebird, thanks :)
    Since I've been tracking on Ovia my cycles have been 31, 31, 31, 36 (was preventing at this point and got a little concerned a month before the wedding and a week before hen do!), 28. So maybe I'll see if I can hold out until either AF arrives or CD36 as that's the longest it's been.
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  • newthrift
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    We started getting asked from the night we got married (when I was 24) and I'm sure at least once/twice per week. I've learnt to throw back with 'we'll get there when we are ready/ooo not yet I prefer when I can hand then back when they cry/I'm still chasing that flat tummy first' haha. I just find it easier to bat it back like the rest of you which is something around the truth so it's not a total lie.
    Snowscreamer as firebird says, I would wait until you are defiantly late.
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