Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS · 2 June 2014 at 1:55PM

RAS wrote: »

Jack Two other little issues

1. Was there a dual signed inventory when you moved in?
2. were you sent the prescribed information within the 30 days?

Do you have contact details for the Landlord? If not consider downloading their address from the Land Registry (£3).

Then write and explain that you are currently in the process of divorcing and do not knwo if you need a 6 or 12 months tenancy. Could you go statutory periodic? Promise to give as much notice as possible of leaving.

Yesdual sign inventory I also sent some photo's showing existing damage to laminate floor. I don't have landlord address have strict instructions to go throughagent for all issues. I think they will say they'll have no problems filling so if I wanted to leave earlier no problem which is why they can push the rent up as there is a demand and so they can get there fee. Obviously the LL is interested in getting the higher rent so I think would give me the 2 months notice so thgey can get someone paying the higher rent? Maybe worth a try?

JackRS · 4 June 2014 at 3:54PM

Update

Spoke with ex last night, she wants to move down south as daughters course finishes soon and our son is pulling his hair out living with grandparents. So the options are as the house hasn’t sold according to her:

1) I move back in the house and I give her whatever she needs to pay for the rent down south, no doubt more than I currently pay.
2) I stay in rented and we rent out the FMH with her receiving the money.

I’m feeling reluctant to have to pay all her rent and certainly don’t think it’s fair that she should get all rent from FMH if we find a tenant. Just wondered what would be considered reasonable. Currently the house is a joint asset therefore if we rented it out we should both receive half, less agency costs etc. Therefore if I were to move back in I don’t think I should give her more than what she would receive if we rented it out.

Don’t forget I’m still paying her voluntary maintenance of £1150 a month and providing a new car cost to me £206/month (she just pays for fuel). She says she’ll look for a job when there, but if muggings here is paying rent and all the rest why would she want to work! Thing is yet again I’ll be made out to being unreasonable and her solicitor will propose some legal action.

Anything anybody knows about this one some previous case?

RAS · 4 June 2014 at 4:01PM

If you were to move back in would you put the house on the market?

If so, she can claim LHA to cover the cost of renting down there (check out the VOA web-site for the maximum value). Of course spousal maintenance may make this rather more difficult so it would be hugely sensible for you to only pay her maintenance for your son.

The VOA amount only covers the bottom 30% of the market but you could make an additional contribution (less than your current rent) until the house is sold.

And then actively market the property?

Is there any agreement on the split yet?????

JackRS · 4 June 2014 at 4:31PM

RAS wrote: »

If you were to move back in would you put the house on the market?

If so, she can claim LHA to cover the cost of renting down there (check out the VOA web-site for the maximum value). Of course spousal maintenance may make this rather more difficult so it would be hugely sensible for you to only pay her maintenance for your son.

The VOA amount only covers the bottom 30% of the market but you could make an additional contribution (less than your current rent) until the house is sold.

And then actively market the property?

Is there any agreement on the split yet?????

Not sure what that all means but I will look into as you suggest, the house would continue to be on the market. No no agreement yet waiting for atuary report on pensions as waiting for state pension reports.

RAS · 4 June 2014 at 4:38PM

Start with www.turn2us.org.uk and pretend to be your wife, signed on to JSA to start with.

Local Housing Allowance -benefit paid to cover rent.

Limits to LHA - three bedroom rate in this case (parent, two older children of different genders). Each area sets the maximum amount that they will pay towards rent, regardless of the actual cost. A response to the few who rented masive houses in posh parts of London because they had large families. This rate is sufficient to cover the rent in 30% of local properties.

There is a link from the t2u web-site to find out the allowance in the area your wife wants to live in.

If you model her income with you paying spousal maintenance you will find she rapidly loses entitlement to any benefits. Maintenance paid for children is ignored for benefit calculations.

rpc · 5 June 2014 at 10:22AM

If the house is currently on the market and not selling, there will be a reason for it.

- Not really trying
- Something wrong with it
- Asking price too high

I would try to take a good look at the house and the local market, although that is hard when she is living in it. It's quite possible that the attempt to sell is a bit of a show. Aside from anything else, sale of the marital home is a perfect time to split finances and start fresh!

justme111 · 5 June 2014 at 11:58AM

Sorry if it looks too obvious - why not to ask your solicitor and people at wikivorce.
I would be tempted to move in and pay her nothing . Ok ok , half of what is your rent seems fair. She had plenty of time to look for a job , children are grown up - not sure she could prove anything unreasonable from your side even if she tried.
I am surprised actuarial report takes so long - its been like 6 months since.you.been.waiting for it ? I would been tempted to complaint.
Re your son pulling hair - well that's his life lesson , if one can not afford to live on his own one shares and sharing means inconveniences .

LannieDuck · 6 June 2014 at 5:22PM

V surprised you haven't received actuarial report yet. Get your solicitor onto it. It's costing you £1150 per month...

JackRS · 7 June 2014 at 9:41AM

LannieDuck wrote: »

V surprised you haven't received actuarial report yet. Get your solicitor onto it. It's costing you £1150 per month...

It's costing me more than that, and when it's all done I think it will cost even more. I think I should move back in the house to get it sold. In which case she'll expect me to pay for her rental on top of that?

justme111 · 7 June 2014 at 10:13AM

I must say the last post reads to me as the most down one in the whole thread. I feel like writing complaint letters , calling solicitors , asking questions for jack .
How ground down one should be to feel its going to be even worse once it is finished ?!

Separated, how much should I provide?

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