Blended family, who gets the small bedroom?

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  • svain
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    Money_maker wrote: »
    How lucky these boys are to have a room apiece, perhaps the suggestion that they share would stop the squabbling about something so insignificant as size of own room.


    Edit: particularly if you need to use a large TV/gaming chair as a form of blackmail. Get real!

    insignificant to you maybe ..... to a child it is a big deal.
  • Money_maker
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    No, to you it is a big deal. You make the decision whether you feel you need sweetners or not.
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  • Mojisola
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    bigheadxx wrote: »
    I would much rather my son have the bigger room

    What does your GF think?
  • svain
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    Money_maker wrote: »
    No, to you it is a big deal. You make the decision whether you feel you need sweetners or not.

    No ... It IS to a child .... This isnt the dark ages. Dictatorial parenting is a last resort and if have a good relationship with them is rarely needed for bigger decisions.
  • jackyann
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    Have you asked the kids to come up with a solution?
    I would tell them that it has to OK'd by the adults, but you'd appreciate them all talking together to see if they can work out an agreement.
    My experience is that sparks some general problem-solving.
  • silvercar
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    Now ask the kids if they want double or single beds?

    Seems to be a thing with teenagers that they like to sprawl across double beds, even when that leaves little space in the room.
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  • bigheadxx
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    Mojisola wrote: »
    What does your GF think?
    jackyann wrote: »
    Have you asked the kids to come up with a solution?
    I would tell them that it has to OK'd by the adults, but you'd appreciate them all talking together to see if they can work out an agreement.
    My experience is that sparks some general problem-solving.

    She doesn't want her kids to get the short straw but she gets where i am coming from as well. At the moment the kids don't see that much of each other and they not that close. We all had sunday lunch today and I said to my eldest to be a bit sensible about it but the subject didn't come up when we were all together.

    We are going to arrange a sleepover next week so maybe I could get my son to bring the subject up with her eldest but I don't want them to entrench their positions which means one of them will be really upset because i still think a sweetener to her eldest will work. We haven't even bought the place yet!
  • theoretica
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    theoretica wrote: »
    Can you build a partition in the big room to shrink it?

    You didn't answer this- put up a partition so the room is the same size as the other one, and has a lobby area for your gym.
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  • bigheadxx
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    theoretica wrote: »
    You didn't answer this- put up a partition so the room is the same size as the other one, and has a lobby area for your gym.

    that actually is a good idea!
  • 74jax
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    bigheadxx wrote: »
    . We all had sunday lunch today and I said to my eldest to be a bit sensible about it but the subject didn't come up when we were all together.

    maybe I could get my son to bring the subject up with her eldest

    Why don't you bring it up? I don't understand why you are waiting for your son to bring it up? Just get them all together and talk about it.

    The Sunday dinner was ideal, talk about moving house and everyone's room.

    Don't leave it to your son.
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