I'm useless

Jessicasalviora wrote: »

I'm not some brat that came out of the school and expects mountains. I'm a normal girl, that just wants respect and a job where employers won't treat me like sh*t, so I've no idea, why some of say that I should look at myself. If people will cuss at me, I'll leave, because no matter how old I am, or how much experience I have, no one has the right to do that and life shouldn't be about going to work sad or depressed. Another thing is that I'll be going back to education, but I need money first.

What made me cry is people that are rude. I'm weak, because of my past, that's why I can't take negativity, but I'm trying as long as people don't go over the border. The only thing I wish for is a normal job, where I will feel happy.

I'm sorry Jessica, but you have just proven the point. You came here asking people for advice and you haven't liked all the advice you got so you choose to ignore it. Nobody called you a brat. But you are young and you are right out of school. You have no employment history to speak of. And you have already quit one job and are heading the same way on another. It's a lovely theory that everyone should be treated nicely and nobody should be rude. It's great that you think nobody should have to go to work unhappy. But the reality is that a lot of workplaces and employers don't agree with you. They don't change for you. And I regret to say that many, many people don't like going to work but spend their entire lives going anyway!

I'm not sure what you think is a "normal" job, but in the real world, low paid and low skilled jobs for school leavers are, more often than not, not dream jobs. And wherever you live, you are now competing with at least one, if not two more years of school leavers - they are coming out all bright eyed and ready to work, and you are a year or so behind with nothing to show but unemployment. And, add far as your employers go, something of an attitude.

If you quit this job because people are rude to you, how long do you think it will be before you are offered another one? Another year? longer? You have to deal with clients, and you don't get to tell customers how to behave. And pretty much everyone has done the "have to stay on later" sometimes or not be paid more for weekends or bank holidays (which is quite common now). And nobody ends up just doing what was in the job description or mentioned at interview. You see, pretty much all of these points are normal jobs to people here! This is the way it is. And you are just getting started in the world of work, but you expect it to meet your expectations instead of the other way around. That is not going to happen.

I'm not sure how you think Tescos will be any different. Customers might be rude, or they may be nasty. If you want to get on then you have to be willing to go an extra mile and not out of the door add the clock strikes the end of your shift. I am not sure about Tescos, but most supermarkets don't give you extra pay to work bank holidays these days. You work when you are told to work. And I can guarantee that you'll be asked to do stuff that isn't in the job description. Nor can you guarantee that all your managers will be nice to you. So you are going to have to learn coping strategies. You can't quit a job, any job, just because it doesn't suit you, and then expect to look attractive to employers as a great candidate. If you are NEET ( not in education, training or employment) for a period of a year, you are at a disadvantage with employers already - they are going to be wondering why you have never worked since you aren't in education or training. And you will be competing against people who have complete records to show, with no significant gaps.

So you really do need to make this job work until you get another one. Don't be bubbly and smiley. Be yourself. Get on with your work and remember that you are the new kid on the block - the other employees have existing relationships and it takes time to adjust to include the newbie. Most of your clients are not being angry at you - they annoyed about something that has happened, or something your employer has done. Or they are just being plain unreasonable. But you need to blank that out and do your job - it isn't personal, and it isn't about you. Just stick your head down and beaver away. Make work tolerable, if you can't make it great, until the good reference that you get for being such a great worker gets got a job you like better.

There's not many people who haven't had a st***y job or two. Some people are unlucky enough to never have anything else. But it is what it is, and you can't walk away every time someone is rude or you don't get what you want.

Jessicasalviora wrote: »

I'm not some brat that came out of the school and expects mountains. I'm a normal girl, that just wants respect and a job where employers won't treat me like sh*t, so I've no idea, why some of say that I should look at myself. If people will cuss at me, I'll leave, because no matter how old I am, or how much experience I have, no one has the right to do that and life shouldn't be about going to work sad or depressed. Another thing is that I'll be going back to education, but I need money first.

Hey Jessica, welcome to real life

I wouldn't go so far to call you a brat, but you kind of do seem to be expecting mountains!

I'll let you in on a little secret. There are lots of people out there who struggle to get into half decent jobs despite having DEGREES and years of experience! Typically, but not always, these are you best ways of getting such a job:

1. The smarts/education geared around specifically what you want to do

2. A friend/family member who works in that field/company.

3. Influence (for example money)

For those who don't meet that bill, you may need to start off in McDonalds or Primark where the level of respect given is fairly limited.

Awesome that you going back into education! I worked part time in a bookmakers to fund my degree.... It was funny because due to my hours they had me working "on relief" across 20+ shops in Liverpool... One day I might have been working in Huyton (very rough round there, lots of armed robberies too) and another in Wavertree (quite rough but not as bad). Was a real pain in the !!!! because of the excessive travel. One might say that they were not really treating me with respect But hey ho, it was money in the bank! Late Edit: Oh and people I worked with had a habit of stealing money from the till and blaming it on me!! I got a disciplinary for that as well, but the head office finally cottoned on and realised that it was actually the other people!

Oh and life shouldn't be about chemical gas attacks in Syria or terrorist bombers blowing people up, but it happens.. So your comment "life shouldn't be about going to work sad or depressed" kind of pales in comparison Would much rather drag my bum into work all sad and depressed than run the risk of having my leg blown off by an IED each day

What made me cry is people that are rude. I'm weak, because of my past, that's why I can't take negativity, but I'm trying as long as people don't go over the border. The only thing I wish for is a normal job, where I will feel happy.

Well, you need professional help if you have mental health issues relating to your past.

Oh, and maybe live by the following motto:

Work to live, not live to work.

Derive happiness from outside of work until you can gain qualifications which lead to work which you enjoy.

It would appear that the OP quit because we were being "rude", i.e. not telling her what she wanted to hear. I hope she hears the message eventually, but I doubt it. I suspect that something similar happened at school - her suggestion that she was going back to education after she had saved enough money didn't really make any sense, since she is at the only age when that doesn't cost an arm and a leg to do, and there are a plethora of educational and training opportunities. If she's still reading this - go to college, or get an apprenticeship. You can't "delete your post" every time the world doesn't treat you as you want it to.