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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
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    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:18 PM
    The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13 8th Jan 14 at 12:18 PM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 12:30 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 12:21 PM
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    Monthly Challenge : January 2014
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    • 8th Jan 14, 12:21 PM
    January 2014 :-

    = 7 Days AF

    = 14 days AF

    = 21 days AF

    = 28 days AF

    = 31 days AF

    = target achieved

    AFoolWithMoney 7/31

    AlexLK 1
    /14


    ArsenalBarnie 2/10

    Baileysonice
    2/15

    Barny1979 7/31

    Bliss /22

    CuppaTea 6/22
    DebJay 7/31

    DoshWaster 7/31


    Fruball 5
    /18


    Gien 4/28

    Green Karen 5/25
    GreyCatLady 7/31

    GWithBag 2/15

    Jess The Cat 2/16

    Jo1972 6/31
    Judi 7/31

    Lucy /31

    Maman 1/10

    Mummyto3boys 3/21

    Munchin /16

    NewRoadAhead 3/20

    NewYearNewStart 2/30

    PriceySOS 5/24

    RachelWW1 3/10
    Satchmo 7/31

    Shaggy 5/17


    Sukeyboo 3/15

    The Green Lady /31
    TillerGirl 7/31
    TopGirl 7/31

    Wanna Bee Free 2/14

    WantToBeSE 5/30
    YvieBlue 7/31

    40 SomethingMum 2/26

    5 Year Plan 5/31


    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

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    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-01-2014 at 1:44 PM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • judi24
    • By judi24 8th Jan 14, 12:30 PM
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    Oooohhh new thread!!! Exciting - love the quote from Springwatch Girl!!! Hope everyone is ok this morning
    • gien
    • By gien 8th Jan 14, 12:35 PM
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    New Thread!! Last night was AF, so I'm on 4 now please Shaggy.
    Trying to keep in budget.

    2270
    • jo1972
    • By jo1972 8th Jan 14, 12:40 PM
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    Ooooh shiny new thread Thanks Shaggy!

    I'm actually on 6, but don't worry changing it. Sorry my fault for not checking in properly

    Xxx
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    • 365days
    • By 365days 8th Jan 14, 12:43 PM
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    Lets hope the number 13 is lucky for some!

    Thanks Shaggy - You are a superstar!
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    • AlexLK
    • By AlexLK 8th Jan 14, 12:56 PM
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    I've not been doing very well with this challenge since October / November. It seems the "novelty" of not having a drink has somewhat worn off. Looking back I cannot believe one month I managed to hardly slip up from my challenge to stop drinking during the week and only have a couple at the weekend. Now, it seems I've gone back to where I was before I even decided to cut down for money's sake.

    Due to my health issues and the medication I'm meant to take, I'm not really meant to drink heavily (nor in moderation). My doctor's advice was to cut it down to special occasions, perhaps a glass of wine with my meal at weekends etc. Unfortunately, that too has gone by the by.

    So, I'm going to declare 2/14 already for this evening and will not "cheat" by having a drink after midnight because "that's tomorrow", for that only makes me sound as if I've got a problem.
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    • maman
    • By maman 8th Jan 14, 1:26 PM
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    So, I'm going to declare 2/14 already for this evening .
    Originally posted by AlexLK
    Me too.

    I've found it very difficult to get back on the wagon after Christmas festivities.

    Thanks for starting new thread.

    2 AFDs please Shaggy.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 1:43 PM
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    Ooooh shiny new thread Thanks Shaggy!

    I'm actually on 6, but don't worry changing it. Sorry my fault for not checking in properly

    Xxx
    Originally posted by jo1972
    I didn't want to assume.... and
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 1:45 PM
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    Lets hope the number 13 is lucky for some!
    Originally posted by 365days
    I did think about skipping 13 and going straight to 14.....
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • WantToBeSE
    • By WantToBeSE 8th Jan 14, 1:59 PM
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    Thanks for starting the new thread, Shaggy Am determined to make tonight my number 6, but am not declaring yet.
    I know that someone mentioned eating a lot/gaining weight when stopping alcohol (i think that was 365 who mentioned it?), i am having the same problem..i can't stop eating!
    Any ideas to deal with this issue please?

    I am really glad i jumped straight back on the wagon after Sunday. It would have been very easy to think "well i have mucked up now, and wont reach my 31 day target, so sod it i'll just carry on drinking". But i didnt

    Glad to hear everyone is doing well, sending hugs to anyone that needs it ((HUGS)).
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    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 8th Jan 14, 2:31 PM
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    I know that someone mentioned eating a lot/gaining weight when stopping alcohol (i think that was 365 who mentioned it?), i am having the same problem..i can't stop eating!
    Any ideas to deal with this issue please?
    ((HUGS)).
    Originally posted by WantToBeSE
    I also have concerns about weight gain and lost weight by cutting down on the alcohol. I really don't want to put it back on (especially as I bought new clothes and it wouldn't be very MSE!).

    What works best for me (maybe not for anyone else), is 3 meals a day only - it's the snacks that do me most damage. At meal time I allow myself treats but only eat till I am full, then the treat won't turn into a Miranda Hart biscuit blizzard! I try to only eat when I actually feel hungry as then I enjoy it more anyway.

    If I get hungry in between I have some small sweets in the car (less than 10 calories each) and at supper time I have Options Hot chocolate if I need something sweet.

    But if anyone else has any good tips I'm open to suggestions.
    • Green Karen
    • By Green Karen 8th Jan 14, 2:33 PM
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    And thanks Shaggy, looking at the old posts I see how many years you have been doing this so vigilantly for - you are a star!
    • Fruball
    • By Fruball 8th Jan 14, 2:49 PM
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    Thanks for starting the new thread, Shaggy Am determined to make tonight my number 6, but am not declaring yet.
    I know that someone mentioned eating a lot/gaining weight when stopping alcohol (i think that was 365 who mentioned it?), i am having the same problem..i can't stop eating!
    Any ideas to deal with this issue please?


    I am really glad i jumped straight back on the wagon after Sunday. It would have been very easy to think "well i have mucked up now, and wont reach my 31 day target, so sod it i'll just carry on drinking". But i didnt

    Glad to hear everyone is doing well, sending hugs to anyone that needs it ((HUGS)).
    Originally posted by WantToBeSE
    Personally I think food is the lesser of the two evils but totally understand and I don't want to gain weight either!

    If you consider that one large glass of wine contains the same number of calories as a cornetto ice cream... from http://www.drinkaware.co.uk/check-the-facts/what-is-alcohol/types-of-alcohol/units-and-calories-in-wine/ then allowing yourself an extra snack in place of that is fine, in my opinion as long as you aren't going over the amount of calories that your booze would have contained.

    I wouldn't have a cornetto though Better would be to choose a slow release carb snack like porridge, brown rice, a brown bread sandwich etc. On my non-drinking nights, I now have a low carb snack late in the evening/before bed and that seems to have helped with stopped (!) the night sweats and general crappy feeling. I am sure it is because my body is used to a high sugar/carb hit (wine) in the evenings. Last night I had a small bowl of rice with a couple of tbsp of tesc0 value sweet and sour sauce and a splash of soy sauce. It was yummy and replaced the carb hit of wine with a fraction of the calories.

    Hope that helps
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    Think Im going to take up arm knitting!! Will make it harder to snack WantToBeSE But unfortunately I probably could manage to rig up something with a straw to drink!
    Springwatch girl that's how I want to feel
    To those that have slipped along the way your still here & hopefully it will help to make you strong enough To help the rest of us when we too slip
    8/31 Shaggy thank you
    • Doshwaster
    • By Doshwaster 8th Jan 14, 3:00 PM
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    Thanks for starting the new thread, Shaggy Am determined to make tonight my number 6, but am not declaring yet.
    I know that someone mentioned eating a lot/gaining weight when stopping alcohol (i think that was 365 who mentioned it?), i am having the same problem..i can't stop eating!
    Any ideas to deal with this issue please?
    Originally posted by WantToBeSE
    Actually, I find that I eat better when I'm not drinking. If I go out to the pub for 8 pints then I'll eat any junk when I get home (or end up with a takeaway). If I have a bottle of wine in front of the telly, I'll be constantly nibbling on cheese and biscuits. Nobody ever gets drunk and then says "Mmm.. I fancy a salad!"

    For me stopping drinking = weight loss.
    Last edited by Doshwaster; 08-01-2014 at 3:04 PM.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 3:02 PM
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    Seen this and thought of this thread

    Should there be a word for an 'almost alcoholic'?
    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-25639406
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Jan 14, 3:11 PM
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    For me stopping drinking = weight loss.
    Originally posted by Doshwaster
    Me too. I find that after even just a couple of days of not drinking my appetite drops - at about 6 days it's really noticeable for me. I think it's to do with falling sugar levels...

    You'll find some good articles if you google "alcohol and eating habits".
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
    • WantToBeSE
    • By WantToBeSE 8th Jan 14, 3:34 PM
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    Thanks everyone for the advice about eating/alcohol. I'll definitely google it. I hadn't thought about the sugar content of alcohol, so i guess my body is craving it when i am drinking significantly less than normal. As long as i remember this, and therefore understand why i am craving carbs and sugar, i think i'll be OK
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