14 years I feel Ive wasted,not sure how to cope

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  • my-user-name
    my-user-name Posts: 267
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    He never did any improvements to my home sarah,now I'm glad he didn't!
    However he did build me a wardrobe way back in 2010 (but I paid for the wood,screws,nails and glue) :(
  • candygirl
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    He never did any improvements to my home sarah,now I'm glad he didn't!
    However he did build me a wardrobe way back in 2010 (but I paid for the wood,screws,nails and glue) :(

    Omg what a ****! :mad::mad:
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  • my-user-name
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    edited 3 April 2017 at 3:58PM
    Just checked my online banking..hes put £6,000 in not £7,000 and its via a cheque.
    A grand total of £35 a month extra for a 14 year relationship.
    I thought I was worth more but obviously I wasn't :(
  • my-user-name
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    Just checked my online banking..hes put £6,000 in not £7,000 and its via a cheque.
    A grand total of £35 a month extra for a 14 year relationship.
    I thought I was worth more but obviously I wasn't :(
    Should I just count my losses and accept it??
  • kelpie35
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    All I can say is spend it wisely
  • spirit
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    Tell him that you realised he was crap at finance, but surely he must know the difference between a number 6 and 7 LOL
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  • I'd say he's trying to provoke you in to contacting him. He knows how much you agreed, he knows sending less will annoy you, he thinks you'll phone him up demanding more, all so he can have a bit of a go at you again.

    Remember, you showed him that you're perfectly capable of living without him, and he doesn't like that.

    Just leave it. It's disappointing, even heartbreaking, but you're much better than he is. No texts, no emails, no calls. If he contacts you asking "did my payment arrive?" then you say "Yes thank you", if he contacts you saying "Did my £7000 arrive?" you just say "Money received, thank you" without confirming any kind of number that actually showed up. Ignore any message after that.

    Tonight I think you need a hot bath or shower and a good watch of something on TV or DVD. No doctor around so this is Historian's orders!
    "You won't bloom until you're planted" - Graffiti spotted in Newcastle.

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  • annandale
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    Six grand more than you had a week ago. You could put some of it towards a pension plan and treat yourself with the rest
  • my-user-name
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    I'd say he's trying to provoke you in to contacting him. He knows how much you agreed, he knows sending less will annoy you, he thinks you'll phone him up demanding more, all so he can have a bit of a go at you again.

    Remember, you showed him that you're perfectly capable of living without him, and he doesn't like that.

    Just leave it. It's disappointing, even heartbreaking, but you're much better than he is. No texts, no emails, no calls. If he contacts you asking "did my payment arrive?" then you say "Yes thank you", if he contacts you saying "Did my £7000 arrive?" you just say "Money received, thank you" without confirming any kind of number that actually showed up. Ignore any message after that.

    Tonight I think you need a hot bath or shower and a good watch of something on TV or DVD. No doctor around so this is Historian's orders!

    I'm leaving it Vintage,Id rather walk away with my head held high and with £6,000 that I didn't know I had a week ago than ranting to him about welching on his deal.
    I,ll count my blessings and save it for a rainy day,besides I don't wish to commumicate with him anyway.I think Ive made the right decision.
  • kelpie35 wrote: »
    All I can say is spend it wisely
    I wont be spending it kelpie,I,ll be saving it,x
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