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  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    bugslet wrote: »
    Actually he owes whatever the OP decides. If he doesn't like that, then she can either reduce the charge or face losing the income, and he can decided if whatever rate it is, is better than what he can get elsewhere and if not leave.:D

    Kind of depends where in the country they live as well.



    By that logic, if she asked for £10k and he gave it to her, you don't think that would amount to a beneficial interest?


    The whole point here is to protect the OP and her investment. But charging more than half of the costs, she could be open to a legal struggle down the line.
  • FBaby
    FBaby Posts: 18,367 Forumite
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    The whole point here is to protect the OP and her investment.
    Yes, and it sounds like he is starting to realise this. I expect he'll be the one walking out shortly. Sometimes it's better to pay more than to be taken for a fool! 4 years is a long time to still being considered nothing more than a lodger at the end of it.
  • bugslet
    bugslet Posts: 6,874 Forumite
    Comms69 wrote: »
    By that logic, if she asked for £10k and he gave it to her, you don't think that would amount to a beneficial interest?


    The whole point here is to protect the OP and her investment. But charging more than half of the costs, she could be open to a legal struggle down the line.

    Maybe, that would be interesting in court, but I think the reality is wildly different, he's going to take the moving on option.

    Going back to reality, at the moment I don't think she has much to worry about in terms of protecting her investment.

    Going by my example, with a far greater time period than the OPs, he might and only might, have got some money.
  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    bugslet wrote: »
    Maybe, that would be interesting in court, but I think the reality is wildly different, he's going to take the moving on option. - I don't see why his behaviour is so offensive though

    Going back to reality, at the moment I don't think she has much to worry about in terms of protecting her investment. - No, at the minute it seems to be perfectly sound

    Going by my example, with a far greater time period than the OPs, he might and only might, have got some money.


    Just to be clear, that was just the opinion of the solicitor.... You never actually did the whole court thing



    Sometimes it's not about the money won, but the money lost by the other side.


    If I issued court papers and you didn't have a clue, you may go to a solicitor, who would charge you £200 to file a defence.


    I simply withdraw my claim (total cost so far is around £35) and you are left £200 down. You cannot reclaim that from me.
  • Slinky
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    £315 - yep fine with me
    £200 - bit high, but sure
    £45 - storage - no, they're living as one household.


    So he owes £7.50

    The OP said he has his own room within the house as he 'likes his own space' (doesn't sound like 'one household') plus sole use of the shed.

    We recently rented a cubic meter sized cupboard at a storage unit. That was £8+VAT per week.
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  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    Slinky wrote: »
    The OP said he has his own room within the house as he 'likes his own space' (doesn't sound like 'one household') plus sole use of the shed. - What like a home office or a man cave? Never heard of either of those?

    We recently rented a cubic meter sized cupboard at a storage unit. That was £8+VAT per week.



    Presumably you aren't sleeping with the owner though....
  • Fireflyaway
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    If you earn the same and are sharing the same house and bills it makes sense to me to split it equally. The way I see it is its probably cheaper than him renting elsewhere and if the house is mortgaged, you are sort of renting it off the bank. Its not as if you are personally pocketing his rent. He sounds ungrateful.
  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    Fireflyaway wrote: »
    If you earn the same and are sharing the same house and bills it makes sense to me to split it equally. The way I see it is its probably cheaper than him renting elsewhere and if the house is mortgaged, you are sort of renting it off the bank. - no you aren't... Its not as if you are personally pocketing his rent. He sounds ungrateful.
    And yes that is exactly it, she is pocketing his money to pay her debts.


    Literally putting money into the property in the form of equity.
  • pollyanna24
    pollyanna24 Posts: 4,370 Forumite
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    I don't understand this, that's not fair, attitude.

    Maybe I'm thinking about it from the point of view that I have my own house that I have worked hard for and am struggling to pay for (why did I buy it? Cos I bought it with an ex 11 years ago and he left me with small children, so situations change).

    If I had someone move in with me and they expected to live with me for free when I can barely keep the house over my head, I think I would resent them.

    At the same time, I wouldn't want them to have a claim on my house as I've had it for so long and I know that relationships don't always last the course.
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  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    pollyanna24 wrote: »
    Maybe I'm thinking about it from the point of view that I have my own house that I have worked hard for and am struggling to pay for (why did I buy it? Cos I bought it with an ex 11 years ago and he left me with small children, so situations change). - So you'd like someone to pay for it for you?

    If I had someone move in with me and they expected to live with me for free when I can barely keep the house over my head, I think I would resent them. - ok, but their still paying their way, it's costing you no extra to have them there. What you actually want is for them to pay off your mortgage, but you to benefit from it.

    At the same time, I wouldn't want them to have a claim on my house as I've had it for so long and I know that relationships don't always last the course.
    Exactly. You want someone to just pay off your house for you.


    You see nothing wrong with that? profiting from someone you supposedly care about
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