On-line dating experiences?

Oakdene wrote: »

Aw well at least she was honest enough to say that you rather than to just ghost you.

My best-worst first date story involved meeting someone who then decided to snort some cocaine she had in a restuarant & then went missing!!

I do like the fun of dates just for the various experiences and characters, only just before xmas, one from 100 miles away was messaging, soon went onto whats app, she phoned and later without prompt was sending pics that left nowt to imagine (other than if only those weren't pierced yuk!) next day she messaged and then blocked me on whats app, didn't say anything I only knew as the profile pic had vanished off what's app.

I guess from reading earlier posts having a technical job is a right put off for many :rotfl:

mariposa687 wrote: »

I signed up for on-line dating at the end of last year. Been on one date, and all going to plan, I've said yes to a second date. Chatting to a few people, my profile pictures are decent (and up to date) and my profile is fairly well written.

Something doesn't feel quite right about it. On-line dating seems quite cold compared to meeting someone in real life. I met my ex on an internship programme abroad.

I find it stressful keeping up multiple conversations, people who don't respond and seem to end up with quite a few pen pals despite the idea being to go out on dates!. I also feel uncomfortable that the guys I go on dates with are talking to multiple people as well, even though I am too.

Has anyone else tried it and felt the same? Any positive experiences?

I've paid for 6 months but might not renew after that. I'd much prefer to meet someone through a hobby or similar but I'm 30 now and I do want to have kids so I'm worried that time isn't on my side. My close friends are all in long term relationships have never used online dating so they don't understand, as much as they try to.

Heres the thing, women just need a profile to get some contact even if its a badly written one, men on the other hand need to put a lot of effort in to get a response unless they are of the highest looks and very confident but then they wouldn't need to use a dating site to meet someone, creates problems for both sexes as often the men who fit that description are just looking for a good time yet they are a womans first choice and she gets hurt so she is even more picky (except on looks) creating a endless cycle of problems for both sexes.

A genuine guy is likely to be chatting to more than one woman as he knows how difficult it is for men to meet someone online, doesn't mean he is a player.

And what I have heard from other men is that if a woman who is out of many mens leagues has a profile and profile pictures that makes her look like a model, either its a fake profile, or more likely the woman is a scammer who just wants someone to pay for her, or she is high maintenance, sure make yourself look good in pictures but if you look too good it raises suspicions.

So this is a mans experience and his friends experience.

Thought I would add my tuppence worth to this thread!

I have had several dates through online dating, and met my ex boyfriend online (POF). I was with him for 2 years, but unfortunately he turned out to be a compulsive liar and cheater. To top it all off, when I had told him I'd had enough and was leaving him, he physically assaulted me (great way to make someone stay with you - not!!!). I stuck to my guns and left him!

There have been a few guys who I seemed to get on really well with, we exchanged numbers and even went on a date or two. One of those guys I had 3 dates with - things were going well. Then I didn't hear from him for over a month, so assumed he was not interested and I moved on. One day I get a random message from him which was merely a clown face emoji! Apparently he was offended that I took offence to not hearing from him for over a month after having 3 seemingly good, fun dates. He had no excuse as to why he didn't message/call either.

I have had many experiences of "ghosting" from online prospects, and have had far too many "hook up" offers which I have never been interested in! So all in all, it hasn't been a great experience for me personally, and I have now come off dating sites.

I have heard good things though from other people who have had success with online dating, so I would say don't knock it til you try it!

Gavin83 wrote: »

Not really sure why! Most women would list a requirement of the men they look for as 'intelligent'

I thought they were only interested in a big pe....rsonality.

Gavin83 wrote: »

Was it the same woman?



Not really sure why! Most women would list a requirement of the men they look for as 'intelligent' and having a highly technical job somewhat guarantees a level of intelligence. I also thought geek was somewhat in at the moment.

It was the same woman, but I'd say the pics were a good few years old.
As for the career, thinking back now, many that have been chatting , have vanished not long after exchanging career types, I guess its perhaps it's to do with the social grade mismatch ???