Partner checking dating site?

Pollycat wrote: »

Then if I were the OP I'd dump said person as it sounds like they want approbation from persons other than him.

So what if she does? It's pretty much the same as when people update their profile picture on facebook and get loads of comments like "beautiful" or "still looking good" etc from relatives or friends - people they have no interest in romantically and vv.

Makes them feel good, doesn't harm their relationship. Except perhaps if they have a very insecure partner.

catoutthebag wrote: »

Yes that's true. Since it was mentioned a couple weeks ago in conversation, i have not once asked her since (for the two morons that 'thanked' a dual poster troll - lmao), so I'll continue to trust her as I've done. As you imply, what will be will be.

But you clearly don't trust her or this post wouldn't have happened

If I'd paid a lot for a year too, I'd feel obliged to look too! But I understand why you're not impressed. It's not nice for the other party. Is there a way she can pause her account and reopen it if she needs to?

Not saying you won't live happily ever after, but at least she won't feel obliged to check as she's paid for it.

Suppose it's a bit like having a packet of biscuits open yet saying you'll start a diet. You put it off starting until you've finished the whole packet! Ahem... I'm probably not helping...

Jx

Is it a case of letting it lie?

Letting what lie? That she still goes to have a look but doesn't reply? How did you find out that was the case unless you too went and had a look and noted she'd been active recently?

She is probably still going on it out of habit. It's amazing how logging in becomes part of your life, very much like this site is for many of us. The fact that she paid for a year subscription probably impacts on it too.

Of course, there is also the possibility that she doesn't think you are her perfect match, staying with you on the basis of 'let's see how it goes and if we can make something out of it', but thinking that it is likely not to work out long term and therefore still looking for better options.

To be fair, your even thinking of suggesting to her that she could turn her email notification would raise a bit alarm if I were her and probably makes me want to log in even quicker to look for an alternative that doesn't show signs of control issues.

Only together a couple of months? So you're still in the honeymoon period of a relationship.

If that were me, and my partner admitted to viewing his date profile out of curiosity, I'd say Goodbye and move on before wasting any more time.

If she can be checking out potential 2 months in, then she isn't right for you.