Marriage over don't know where to start

mountainofdebt was absolutely right, harsh but the first person you should be thinking about is you cos you have got to be the strong one which you obviously are because you've been holding it together for the last 18 months.

Having been there I would say accept it's over, it makes the heartbreak easier to deal with. That's not to say it might not work out but at least you won't always be hoping for it.

My heart breaks for you honey but just take it one day at a time you seem to have lots of people on here who care for you which will definitely make things easier to cope with.

best wishes xx

kiz you're being what any mother would be at a time like this..practical.
2 months ago things were getting so bad with my partner i was ready to walk. i told my friends i was going to go to the council the next week to see what the options were for me and my son (i live and work full time in an area thats not my home town). but things changed.

our main arguements were about money, he couldnt understand why he was working 12 hrs a day and not getting a decent wage...so he took it out on me...once in front of HIS mum and believe me she gave him what for!! my partner works away during the week so i know what its like to miss someone so much, and to feel absolutely crushed when those feeling are not reciprocated for whatever reason.

if u can afford it i'd see a solicitor. sorry for waffling!! i hope you'll be okay. perhaps u can work it out for the kids??

take care sweets
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after years of disasterous dealings with men, I would just go on what he says. Oh Kizzy, its horrible and you must be all over the place.

If you really want to go on the day out then go, but it will be tough to pretend. I think it is just time to deal with the practicalities. especially since he seems so hell bent on doing this. and the saying nasty things. hmm. that is not on. you aren't pathetic. not at all.

and don't worry about him, hard tho it is, he has made his decision and you deserve the house, he is walking not you and you have the kids, they NEED the house.

you won't be alone for as long as you have the internet hon. we are all here ok?

(((hugs)))

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Toto wrote: »

Don't feel guilty about the house. You both worked for it and he's the one who has decided not to live in it, you haven't thrown him out. The kids need their home.

How does he seem now? I mean if he isn't depressed then he should be happier this week now he has got this off his chest. he should be raring to go with his new life. if not then it does sound as if there are deeper issues.

Have to agree with Toto it's was a partnership he did the working away bit - you did the dealing with the homefront bit.... there's something going on in his head or circumstance you can't second guess and it will drive you mad trying to. At the end of he day you can't control what he does but you coped when he was away and can cope without him and you can use this a a strong basis that you can cope alone and if he wants to be involved and you are prepared to accept him back he can. If he really wants to do the single thing well lodging is what that lifestyle involves, being a father is about providing a stable home for your kids and it seems he wants to do that, god foundations there then.