NST Muddy March Marathon

Day Nine
Inspiration

The first to Apologize is the Bravest
The first to Forgive is the Strongest
The first to Forget is the Happiest

Day Nine
Use it or Lose It
Inspiration first as that is today's 'lose it' task. Try to do something in one of the 3 categories and make some room in your head and your life lighter.

It isn't always easy or appropriate - suggesting that a victim of child abuse forgive their abuser would be adding insult to injury. If they are able to do it themselves, later in life fine but no-one else should put that additional burden on them.

We are great grudge holders in our family - my grandmother didn't speak to her brother for many years (and was totally in the wrong). I struggle with forgiving people but also feel that the stored grudges 'hurt me' (and only me). Sometimes it's a simple act of poor communication - something badly worded or taken the wrong way. Putting it right asap is far better than letting it fester for years.

A friend upset me once. A mutual friend helped me get it in perspective (I had retreated to a quiet corner of the building to cry and she found me) and after talking it through, I was able to let it go (don't sing, please don't sing) and it felt absolutely wonderful.

So consider it, try it, start with something small. I have a link to an Ed Byrne video talking about being kept awake at night over things you should have said/ done. Swearing alert. Please take it in the spirit it is intended - comments had to be disabled due to people completely missing the point.

Day Nine Wellbeing

Slow down. Sit and watch the sunset.

not nSpeky just keep going, do what you can.

EE those are all good reasons for spending, sometimes it's easier to talk over food or a drink.

Calling Boo to the electrics but thumbs up for the joiner.

Chasing Sunshine Holiday - it would be so nice.

SkintTeacher wrote: »

The strap is to hold them up (u shape or similar!) a la Kim Kardashian...

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt (but never ones with horizontal stripes or slogans because they look weird).

crazy_cat_lady wrote: »

Still here
Just lurking rather than posting as I'm struggling a bit at the moment to manage everything I need to. I'm in the process of list making and working through stuff.

thriftylass wrote: »

Hello

Tonight I'll do a proper meal plan based on what I still have and what I just ordered (just in my head atm, but need to write it down) and do a bit of deep cleaning. Mothernerd inspired me with her kitchen clean the other day. At the moment, I could quite happily not go to work as I got so many things on my list(s) that I could be doing instead. There is a garden list, a DIY list, a cleaning list, a decuttering/sorting list......Oh, well, a turtle moves slowly but steadily, eh.....forgot the reading list, the crafting list.....;) just not enough hours in a day. How do other turtles fit it in. Do you have designated days for cleaning, crafting, gardening etc after work? Plus my kids still need some attention too. Feel like Mr Rush sometimes....

I am struggling with NSDs. Lots of little spends, some choices were a compromise - wanted to go to crafts but already very tired, so the £1 bus hop seemed to be the way to go. Some days I wouldn't claim a NSD as I wasn't sure what I had spent and what was mum's (not out of pocket but can't spare th time or energy to work it out). I haven't even the consolation of making it to the SM and buying lots of healthy ys goodies.

Not sure I am managing (certainly not everything), the things not done list is growing and yes Thrifty not enough hours in the day and so many more things I want to do. Going to take some time to read through the 'poorlies' thread to pick up tips. Think my major goal for this month should be finding ways of doing more with less (acheiving/ getting more done with less time, less energy expended) and doing the fun things. Simplify, simplify, simplify.

Think there is a TED talk I can adapt - four quadrants with tasks dived into what needs doing/ is optional and what you like doing (gives you joy) or hate doing. You should spend most of your time doing what you love, tiresome tasks should be eliminated (if not necessary) or automated (so things like direct debits, using your laptop or phone facilities - all bills get paid but no need to think about them). That's the general idea.

I need to change, systems need to change and I need to eliminate as much paper as possible.

ccl remember your basic self-care, (try) to sleep, eat properly, shrug off stress and breathe.(all easier said than done but needed)

Today I am grateful for taxis, for a quiet day with mum (until her partner came home, he was chatty - said the staff were hitting him, was back at work, in the army and asked if his mother called - I said not today and made sensible remarks about my machine) and for overcoming this latest illness (even though it has a sting in it's tail).