Is this person just trying to get her hands on lady's inheritance?
applepicker
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I live in a town on the South Coast and I do gardening in a rich part of the town. This old woman (90) has a bungalow and it's probably worth £500,000. I have worked there for 5 years and in that whole time this woman (mid-late 50) a school TA has been coming round and seeing her. Apparently she takes no money and looks after her. All the neighbours think she's a carer, but she doesn't get any money. They first met a few years ago when she and her husband did gardening for her. I think she just tried this when her kids grew up and she wanted a job, she's now a teaching assistant in a school. She has never been very friendly to me and was always in conflict with another lady who worked there before and did the cleaning. The cleaner said she was a stirrer and conniving. Recently she came out of hospital and I went around to collect some money for sorting out the bins. She marched up the drive didn't say hello to me which is normal and said to the carers I am the next of kin. She seems to be trying to control everything about the lady's life. The old lady thinks she's wonderful and keeps saying she's the best friend ever- goes to her bed in hospital etc She says she's teacher and ex-nurse etc etc Her husband who is also wonderful according to her does her accounts and manages her money. The ex-cleaner who got sick of it all and quit told me the old lady was always talking about who was on the will etc The old lady seems a bit nuts to me. For example, she's German and actually met Hitler. She said to me she was told in high school that Hitler killed himself when he heard about all the Jews being gassed and couldn't live with himself and that it was the men who surrounded Hitler who were responsible for it. She still absolutely believes that lol, After hearing this and other crazy things I think she's quite gullible.
Have I got this wrong, is the lady in her 50s whole friendship based on her getting the inheritance? Will she definitely get it? Apparently, the German lady has a nephew in Germany, she also has a genuine friend (another old lady) who lives down the road. Her husband who was rich and had all the money (is dead) has lots of nephews and nieces.
Have I got this wrong, is the lady in her 50s whole friendship based on her getting the inheritance? Will she definitely get it? Apparently, the German lady has a nephew in Germany, she also has a genuine friend (another old lady) who lives down the road. Her husband who was rich and had all the money (is dead) has lots of nephews and nieces.
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And this is any of your business because....?0
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Also, a woman who is now in her 90s would have left school well before Hitler died.0
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I don't think anyone can answer your questions.
You clearly think this woman is after the old lady's money but we - as random strangers on t'internet - have no idea.
You are getting a lot of information 2nd hand:applepicker wrote: »The ex-cleaner who got sick of it all and quit told me the old lady was always talking about who was on the will etcapplepicker wrote: »Have I got this wrong, is the lady in her 50s whole friendship based on her getting the inheritance? Will she definitely get it? Apparently, the German lady has a nephew in Germany, she also has a genuine friend (another old lady) who lives down the road. Her husband who was rich and had all the money (is dead) has lots of nephews and nieces.
It really sounds strange for someone to do this:applepicker wrote: »Recently she came out of hospital and I went around to collect some money for sorting out the bins. She marched up the drive didn't say hello to me which is normal and said to the carers I am the next of kin.
Do the nephews and nieces visit?
If you think this lady is vulnerable and being taken advantage of you could report it:
https://www.gov.uk/report-abuse-of-older-person
but I think I'd need much more proof than you seem to have.
I'd carry on mowing the lawn and weeding the flower beds.0 -
And this is any of your business because....?
Bit harsh, Tea lover. A sad reflection of society today.
OP, contact your local authority Elder Abuse team and let them investigate - Tea lover's reaction shows how your concern is likely to be viewed if you attempt to take action yourself.0 -
The woman has been visiting regularly for at least 5 years, including when the person is in hospital. The elderly lady seems perfectly happy with her, and there is absolutely no evidence of any wrongdoing.0
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50 year old lady decides to put something back into society by being friendly to frail elderly lady.0
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Good on you if you genuinely care that this old lady is not being financially and emotionally abused but the reality is that unless you have clear evidence of this carer and her husband providing all their support as a mean to put pressure on this lady by blackmail so she puts their name on her will, what do you think you can do?
In the end, maybe they do genuinely care about her and really have her best interest at heart and don't expect anything from her will.
Or maybe they genuinely to care about her and want to be sure she is safe and well looked after, and have thought that if they are left something in the will, then they will accept it gracefully.
Or maybe they want to care and expect something from the will, but that's still not a crime, nor even if they do all this purely for the purpose of being in her good books with a high chance to be left the house. For all you know, the lady is fully aware of this, but she actually DO want to leave them everything because she does appreciate all they are doing for her.
If however you were to witness a conversation between the wife and husband, where the husband stated that he had diverted some funds that they will be able to use to book their summer holiday, or the wife says to the husband that she had a talk to the old lady and told her very clearly that unless she changed her will by the end of the week, she would stop coming and make sure to tell everyone that she was a close friend of Hitler so that no-one would agree to come and care for her, then you have nothing to go by to support a case for emotional/financial abuse.0 -
Bit harsh, Tea lover. A sad reflection of society today.
OP, contact your local authority Elder Abuse team and let them investigate - Tea lover's reaction shows how your concern is likely to be viewed if you attempt to take action yourself.applepicker wrote: »The old lady thinks she's wonderful and keeps saying she's the best friend ever- goes to her bed in hospital etc0 -
Bit harsh, Tea lover. A sad reflection of society today.
OP, contact your local authority Elder Abuse team and let them investigate - Tea lover's reaction shows how your concern is likely to be viewed if you attempt to take action yourself.
Why is it any concern of the OP's who gets the ladies inheritance?0 -
it definitely doesn't hurt to investigate
Whilst it is up to the old lady whom she gives inheritance to, if the younger lady is helping with intention of gain, its deception or maybe fraud, although it would be pretty hard to prove, and even then it needs someone to make the claim for charges to commence
Hard one to prove, the younger lady could be genuine, but i know of someone that did something similar, so it can happen0
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