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    • Waves and Smiles
    • By Waves and Smiles 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
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    Waves and Smiles
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
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    • 17th Mar 16, 5:23 PM
    Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3 17th Mar 16 at 5:23 PM
    This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here-

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5320917&page=501

    I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a wonderful group of amazing new friends who now mean the world to me. My name was Worried and Scared back then but with the help of everyone here I became Waves and Smiles. This thread is no longer just about me, it is about all of us and for anyone who needs mental health support, their carers and anyone who is interested in learning more. Sometimes we speak seriously, sometimes we offer gentle advice and a lot of the time we laugh together. Sometimes I write mini-novels about my experiences of living with complex mental illness. What is important is everyone here is there for each other. New posters are welcome to join in, or just lurk (we call them humming birds because they hover!) if they would prefer. This is a place without judgement or pressure, and a safe place for everyone. We try to keep abbreviations to a minimum but if there are some that you do not understand please ask.

    Sir Pugliet is our Good Mental Health pug! You may notice that he is mentioned from time to time, he is a little cuddly pug toy that was sent to me by a friend on the thread. He is something of a celebrity now!


    Hugs and warm handshakes, or finger squishes, whichever you prefer.

    Also, please take a look at the following links which offer great advice written by the lovely people at MSE!

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/news/family/2016/03/martin-lewis-launches-new-money--mental-health-policy-institute

    http://blog.moneysavingexpert.com/2016/05/16/the-money-and-mental-health-policy-institute-whatll-it-really-do

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/credit-cards/mental-health-guide
    Last edited by Waves and Smiles; 17-05-2016 at 10:29 AM.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
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    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 11th Oct 17, 8:53 PM
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    Pyxis
    Gingernutty..... don't forget that it can take several tweaks to get to the right dosage level, or even the right meds.

    I think I told you that it took a year-ish before we found the right meds-dosage for me.
    Last edited by Pyxis; 12-10-2017 at 4:30 PM.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
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    • Alias_Omega
    • By Alias_Omega 11th Oct 17, 8:54 PM
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    Alias_Omega
    Hi all,

    Been "Up" now for 2 weeks, had a few "dips" which soon bounced back. Things starting to feel normal, not feeling stressed too much which much be a good thing.

    Kinda still waiting for the emotional fall again...but i guess with time this will fade and confidence will increase and all this hopefully a distant memory...

    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 12th Oct 17, 12:06 PM
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    Gingernutty
    Penguin

    I'm awake. I've eating almost 1lb of grapes, high protein quark and porridge. I want to eat more.

    I had all morning to do something, a list of stuff to do and now I've got no time to do much before taking over an hour to get to work for more training.

    I need to make a few phone calls, book some computer time at the library, pick up a prescription, I wanted to see inside a new department store that had it's grand opening today and get rid of some old medicine containers.

    No time. I really need to get on top of the procrastination.....
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 12th Oct 17, 12:25 PM
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    Izadora
    Penguin reply Try not to beat yourself up over what you've eaten. If nothing else you can try to focus on the fact that they're all things which give you nutrients - I've mostly eaten crisps and chocolate today...

    Don't beat yourself up about the procrastination either. You need to give yourself time to do nothing and anything which isn't an absolute must to get done now will happen as and when you get to it. I would've thought visiting the department store would actually be better left for a while, just the thought of the crowds of people likely to be there makes me feel a bit

    Good luck with today's training and try to be kind to yourself
    End penguin
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 12th Oct 17, 4:32 PM
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    Pyxis
    I really need to get on top of the procrastination.....
    Originally posted by Gingernutty
    Plenty of time for that tomorrow.
    (I just lurve spiders! )
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    • Oakdene
    • By Oakdene 12th Oct 17, 4:57 PM
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    Oakdene
    Time to give up hoping for a miracle, ignore my heart & move on.
    Hiraeth
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 13th Oct 17, 8:20 AM
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    dandy-candy
    Hugs to all who need them at the moment xx

    I know this might sound daft but I have become very aware of how much shorter the daylight is getting and although I love Halloween, Christmas, candles and bonfires; I am feeling quite a dread of the darkness this year.

    We have a funeral to go to today. It's my DH cousin who was a sort of hermit so I didn't know him well, but DH spent a lot of his youth with him. After the cremation they are going to a pub, apparently there will be lots of people there and they are a boozy crowd so I'm wondering if I can duck out of it. I'm hoping DH won't mind as he will know them all, and I just can't do socialising right now.
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 13th Oct 17, 12:37 PM
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    Gingernutty
    Was supposed to go to Grand Designs Live, but have rearranged everything after a call from a London based employment agency about a job.

    I've had to arrange private blood tests to fulfil the proof of immunizations they've requested.

    Hundreds of pounds and travel for hundreds of miles for an agency job.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 13th Oct 17, 2:45 PM
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    Izadora
    Dandy - I hope that the funeral goes well and that DH's okay with you making a swift exit before the wake.

    GN - good luck with the agency job. I can't believe they expect you to jump through those kind of hoops!!
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 13th Oct 17, 7:25 PM
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    Gingernutty
    I worked out the finances and it just isn't feasible.

    I've got a part time/as and when job which I'll stick with for now. £100 a month for travel!!?

    I wrote an email explaining that if it was for a permanent job I'd take their arm off, but as it isn't, I'll just hsve to withdraw my application.

    Grand Designs Live was pretty good and I popped over to see the new Resorts World as well.

    There are lots of sequin spangled tweenagers queuing up for everything. Little Mix (and their cardboard cutouts) are here!!
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 14th Oct 17, 2:02 PM
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    dandy-candy
    Hi all,

    Went to the funeral and afterwards I did go to the pub because DH was a bit upset and I didn't want to leave him to it. I had a chat with one his cousins who is nice and we didn't stay late. We had a quiet evening and tbh still feel pretty washed out, not helped by DS1 crashing in from a club at 4.20 am

    DD is asked last night if she could have a friend over today, which i don't mind at all but it did mean i had to tidy up. only managed the tidying and a damp cloth, cant face dragging the hoover around but it looks presentable at least!

    Completely agree with you gingernutty about the job, its just not worth doing. I hope something better comes along soon.

    Hugs to all x
    • dandy-candy
    • By dandy-candy 17th Oct 17, 11:04 AM
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    dandy-candy
    Continuing penguin about my sons landlord

    we got a text last night from son saying landlord had called them all in for a meeting and said that some one had complained to some housing association or something about the condition of the house and they were coming to inspect the property on Friday, and he was "going to try and find out who and do something about it because no one pulls one over on him" DH and I are very worried and don't know what to do. DH suggested DS contact the student letting agency but I don't know if it makes things worse. We couldn't sleep last night and ended up sitting downstairs until 4am. My dad said he should keep his head down and hope it blows over. I don't know what to do, I worry the landlord is a nut job but we don't want to make it worse for DS.

    Penguin end
    • Gingernutty
    • By Gingernutty 17th Oct 17, 4:26 PM
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    Gingernutty
    Weird thing.

    After all the too-ing and fro-ing to the doctor, I received a letter asking me to come in and bring the letter with me.

    So I did.

    I recently had a hearing test and I reported unilateral tinnitus. I have been referred to yet another specialist because unilateral anything is not good.

    I don't want to keep bothering the doctor and I feel I'm haunting the place.

    I won't hear anything for weeks. I'll have forgotten by the time the appointment comes through.
    Don't know what I'm doing, but doing it anyway...
    • Pyxis
    • By Pyxis 17th Oct 17, 4:32 PM
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    Pyxis
    Dandy, that sounds horrible

    To be honest, I think it might be a good idea to ring the student accommodation people and ask to speak to whoever's in charge, and then say you're speaking to them in strictest confidence, as you don't know what the landlord would do if he finds out.



    Anyway, it might have been a previous tenant, mightn't it? (Iyswim).
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    • Izadora
    • By Izadora 17th Oct 17, 5:16 PM
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    Izadora
    Dandy, that sounds awful.

    Hopefully the inspection will go well on Friday and I wouldn't have thought that any housing association would be allowed to tell the landlord who'd reported any problems.

    GN, don't worry about bothering the doctor. If there are things which mean you need to see them then it's better to camp out there than ignore issues and hope they'll go away. Hopefully you won't have too long to wait for your follow-up about the tinnitus.
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 17th Oct 17, 6:32 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    Not well. Off sick from work. Got pip letter on friday and i had a complete and utter meltdown. felt suicidal and had racing bad thoughts. been with swain the last few days as he didnt want me to beon my on my own. went to first group depression session today. went ok. seeing doctors tomorrow. head is a mess. cant get anyon to go wth me to medical tomorrow best friend is on holiday, swain cant get it off work, the chairty ive been in touch with wanted £160, that i dont have. it a mess. is it bad i want to take one of my hello kittys with me for comfort/support?
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
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    • surveyqueenuk
    • By surveyqueenuk 17th Oct 17, 6:51 PM
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    No MU, it is not bad. It is a Good Thing. I took Mr. Tips, my PG Tips monkey to my PIP interview. Pop your favourite kitty in your handbag tomorrow. We are all with you too. I hope you don't mind but I am going to PM you a couple of tips about tomorrow.

    EDIT: Ook, you have no space for PMs.

    Dandy, try not to worry too much, from the sound of things, DS's LL knows full well that he is in the scheisse! If you were confident that your house would pass muster, you wouldn't give two hoots about being reported would you? I second what Pyxis says about giving them a ring.
    Last edited by surveyqueenuk; 17-10-2017 at 7:01 PM.
    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 17th Oct 17, 7:41 PM
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    xXMessedUpXx
    thabk you, i;ll make space for PMs xx
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
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    • xXMessedUpXx
    • By xXMessedUpXx 17th Oct 17, 8:58 PM
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    i did it. i;ve hit rock bottom. surely now they can refer me back to the mental health team? i'm suicidal. i'm wanting to self harm. thats as bad as it gets right? they have to do somthing right? this is what they wanted. said i didnt meet the criteria well now i !!!!ing do so they will help yeah? im making an emergncy appointment tomorrow if i dnt get though i ask for triage and telephone consultation. if that fails i'll wait at the walk in center. someone has to help. anyone. i canlt go to A+E as i have a phobia of hospitaks, the last time i was in one i nearly died, i can;t go back therw,
    "Life Is Like A Beautiful Melody Only The Lyrics Are Messed Up"
    To see the rainbow you need both the sun and the rain to make its colours appear
    weight lost: 1lbs
    • elsien
    • By elsien 17th Oct 17, 9:49 PM
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    elsien
    MU, I can see you've logged out but just in case you check back in again.
    If you need someone to talk to right now, as well as Samaritans there is also the Saneline helpline.
    0300 304 7000 from 4:30pm - 10:30pm every evening

    As a last resort you can also phone to postpone the DWP medical. It's not ideal because they can refer back to DWP if they don't think you have a valid reason, but if you really need to and if you can get a fit note from the GP then maybe trying to arrange for a time when you've got support might help to stop the panic from kicking in.
    Last edited by elsien; 17-10-2017 at 9:52 PM.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
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