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Yes - just imagine you being the passenger Alex when LittleK is green-laning
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Alex - you're not in a good place right now, but we're all trying to be helpful and constructive even if it doesn't feel like that at the moment
Parents are for life, not just until 7! It changes, we adjust and in turn grow ourselves. Go with the flow and enjoy him blossoming into a son that you're proud to have given so much to in these crucial early years - they do set the stage for his life ongoing.
Hope tomorrow is a better one for you.
PS. DS isn't perfect and neither am I. We all make mistakes, but then that's how we learn isn't it.
I understand.
I like teaching my son, seeing him learn and especially the "light bulb moments" when he realises he's learnt a new concept. When he's older and at school until late, I'll greatly miss teaching him and expanding upon what he's done during the school day. I know school think I'm a nuisance parent for wanting to know what's been covered. Through my music teaching and volunteering, I know that wonder goes once they get older and many become indifferent to new concepts. One day, I'm fairly certain he'll become aware that I have very few answers, no life advice to give and am not someone he should look up to.
Tomorrow my wife wants to take him to see her parents and brother.
It seems you're not far from perfect, Ali.A_Frayed_Knot wrote: »Your right - one day your son will grow up - but then you will have a friend that you can socialise with, that you can do activities together, go to the pictures, go to sporting events / whatever takes you or little LK's interest, but that is some time away - but why should it be - you can do all these activities - right now :A
Meanwhile you should be making kids time - fun - as they grow up so quickly. Does little LK like swimming, most kids love the water.
As for the easter egg hunt, as Ali OK says, make sure the dogs don't get them first :rotfl: you could always put them in hedges, trees up high out of dogs reach
Meanwhile Challenge 1 - is still looking for your attention You could give yourself a boost and update your signature, something like;
Challenge 1 - £250/£500 Half way there :j
I don't know many people that have the type of relationship you describe with their parents, to be honest. It's more likely he'll move away and not wish to see my wife and I.
My son likes swimming and we used to go to the pool every week until he started school.
Not sure how to manage the logistics of an Easter egg hunt and for it to be a surprise for my son.
I didn't exactly put a lot of effort in to Challenge 1, so hardly deserve to be half way there. I would like to work towards achieving my target and could've done today but I only seem to realise that when it's too late.Yes - just imagine you being the passenger Alex when LittleK is green-laning
:eek: Now that's a scary thought! :rotfl:2018 totals:
Savings £11,200
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One day, I'm fairly certain he'll become aware that I have very few answers, no life advice to give and am not someone he should look up to.
It seems you're not far from perfect, Ali.
Far from it, we are all learning - all the time. And as long as you are truthful and honest with your son, then he will look up to you, you are a talented man and it will be truly wonderful to see little LK grow up and discover what talents he has.
I don't know many people that have the type of relationship you describe with their parents, to be honest. It's more likely he'll move away and not wish to see my wife and I.
Don't bother with anyone else, you make your own relationship with your son, and if you want to be his friend, then do it - doesn't matter what kind of relationship others have with their kids.
My son likes swimming and we used to go to the pool every week until he started school.
and is the pool not open after school hours ?
Not sure how to manage the logistics of an Easter egg hunt and for it to be a surprise for my son.
Google it, think of places little LK would look
I didn't exactly put a lot of effort in to Challenge 1, so hardly deserve to be half way there. I would like to work towards achieving my target and could've done today but I only seem to realise that when it's too late.
Make an effort when you have the time, it shouldn't be a pressure thing, we are all rooting for you, as once you achieve your challenge, you will be on a high, looking for your next challenge, a bit of time and effort is all it takes, nobody gets to their destination without a little planning and effort Just think of the sense of achievement you will feel, knowing you can reach a target.
:eek: Now that's a scary thought! :rotfl:
Not sleeping well yet, I know you weren't keen on the lavender thing, but an advert has just came on and its for baby bath that soothes baby before bedtime - have a look - J0hnst0ns Baby Bath time.
mentions, baby bath , naked time :eek: :rotfl:and then sleep Always have 00.00 at the end of your mortgage and one day it will all be 0's :dance:MF[STRIKE] March 2030[/STRIKE] Yes that does say 2030 :eek: Mortgage Free 21.12.18 _party_Now a Part Timer from 27.10.190 -
Always have 00.00 at the end of your mortgage and one day it will all be 0's :dance:MF[STRIKE] March 2030[/STRIKE] Yes that does say 2030 :eek: Mortgage Free 21.12.18 _party_Now a Part Timer from 27.10.190
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I reckon most teenagers would do the same and misuse social media. I know some adults that still do and I'm not talking about ones that grew up in a council house and went to the local "comp".
Alex, your judgemental attitude is palpable at times. To imply only people who grew up in a council house and went the local school are fallible human beings. Interestingly I'm one of the said people who grew up in a council house, went to a local comp, had a TV in my room from when I was 10, my dad got me a computer in infants school and the teachers came to see it. And yet I have 4 degrees, including a PhD and a doctorate, and interestingly if you came into mental health services, I would be the person most likely to help you move past your problems.
Try not to pass this kind of attitude onto your son. Teach him to value everyone, we are all equal. My parents raised me to believe that no one is better than me, but I am no better than anyone else either. I've found it a good philosophy. They also allowed me to make mistakes, repeatedly. They were there to help me when I needed it but they let me make my own way. I'm fallible as anything and anyone else, but I can manage this life and all its hassles.0 -
My parents used to write Rupert Bear-style rhyming couplets as clues, leave the first one on the end of my bed and send me round the house and garden with a mini foil-wrapped egg on each clue until I got to the last one and my 'proper' egg. Lots of fun
I suspect by the time Little K gets to senior school if you don't want him to go a state comprehensive you're going to have to accept the tablet/smartphone scenario. One because it will be compulsory and two because he will be picked on mercilessly if he doesn't have one and be utterly miserable.0 -
Today has been awful, I've done nothing productive apart from washing the cars. Also hardly seen my son this weekend as I've not wanted to go out. Rather annoyed with myself now, to be honest.
Frayed Knot: Thanks. I hope you're right re. my future relationship with my son.
The pool is open after school but I hadn't thought about taking him then. I think he'd like it, thanks again.
Also thank you re. my challenge. It was on my mind today and I did manage to get a set of wheels cleaned and ready to photograph in order to sell them. I did get a lot from meeting debt free and more recent challenges but seem to have developed a negative attitude towards it (hardly seems worthwhile a lot of the time).
:rotfl: :eek: Re. the "baby bath time". Last night was one of my worse nights, unfortunately. As I got hardly any sleep and am really tired, I'm going to try going to bed with Mrs K this evening.
Easter egg hunt article looks useful. Will hopefully have some time over this week to write some clues. 2018 totals:
Savings £11,200
Mortgage Overpayments £5,5000 -
Alex, your judgemental attitude is palpable at times. To imply only people who grew up in a council house and went the local school are fallible human beings. Interestingly I'm one of the said people who grew up in a council house, went to a local comp, had a TV in my room from when I was 10, my dad got me a computer in infants school and the teachers came to see it. And yet I have 4 degrees, including a PhD and a doctorate, and interestingly if you came into mental health services, I would be the person most likely to help you move past your problems.
Try not to pass this kind of attitude onto your son. Teach him to value everyone, we are all equal. My parents raised me to believe that no one is better than me, but I am no better than anyone else either. I've found it a good philosophy. They also allowed me to make mistakes, repeatedly. They were there to help me when I needed it but they let me make my own way. I'm fallible as anything and anyone else, but I can manage this life and all its hassles.
I haven't implied anything of the sort. If anything it seems to me from your post above that you are the one implying superiority.
Regarding my son, I do teach him to be tolerant of others.
By the way, the last time I looked doctoral study = PhD. I'm yet to come across anyone with a "PhD and a doctorate".
cazmanian_minx wrote: »My parents used to write Rupert Bear-style rhyming couplets as clues, leave the first one on the end of my bed and send me round the house and garden with a mini foil-wrapped egg on each clue until I got to the last one and my 'proper' egg. Lots of fun
I suspect by the time Little K gets to senior school if you don't want him to go a state comprehensive you're going to have to accept the tablet/smartphone scenario. One because it will be compulsory and two because he will be picked on mercilessly if he doesn't have one and be utterly miserable.
Caz: That sound a wonderful idea, thanks.
I'd rather not think about tablets and smartphones at this moment in time but am concerned you're right.
2018 totals:
Savings £11,200
Mortgage Overpayments £5,5000 -
Today has been awful, I've done nothing productive apart from washing the cars. Also hardly seen my son this weekend as I've not wanted to go out. Rather annoyed with myself now, to be honest.
Well from what I've heard - that's no mean feat - I do believe you have more than 1 car As for being annoyed with yourself - learn from it, and next time, remember how you felt.
Frayed Knot: Thanks. I hope you're right re. my future relationship with my son.
I will be, if you work on it, nothing comes free
The pool is open after school but I hadn't thought about taking him then. I think he'd like it, thanks again.
Great, boys time together
Also thank you re. my challenge. It was on my mind today and I did manage to get a set of wheels cleaned and ready to photograph in order to sell them. I did get a lot from meeting debt free and more recent challenges but seem to have developed a negative attitude towards it (hardly seems worthwhile a lot of the time).
Good :j still time, another step in the right direction :j and at least you remember how you felt from meeting your debt free challenge :T
Re; your negative attitude - have a think - does this mean it was too easy or too difficult, finding out may have the key to why you feel it's not worthwhile.
:rotfl: :eek: Re. the "baby bath time". Last night was one of my worse nights, unfortunately. As I got hardly any sleep and am really tired, I'm going to try going to bed with Mrs K this evening.
:rotfl::eek: TMI :eek: :rotfl:
Easter egg hunt article looks useful. Will hopefully have some time over this week to write some clues.
Remember the last one found is always, the largest
ps Lttle LK has a bedtime curfew, so should you.Always have 00.00 at the end of your mortgage and one day it will all be 0's :dance:MF[STRIKE] March 2030[/STRIKE] Yes that does say 2030 :eek: Mortgage Free 21.12.18 _party_Now a Part Timer from 27.10.190 -
No superiority from me Alex. re-read your statement, you might see how I interpreted it and I suspect others. But I'm not going to Get drawn into this.I haven't implied anything of the sort. If anything it seems to me from your post above that you are the one implying superiority.
Regarding my son, I do teach him to be tolerant of others.
By the way, the last time I looked doctoral study = PhD. I'm yet to come across anyone with a "PhD and a doctorate".
Caz: That sound a wonderful idea, thanks.
I'd rather not think about tablets and smartphones at this moment in time but am concerned you're right.
But can I just point out you're wrong. A PhD is a doctor of philosophy and there are doctorates too. Mine is a ClinPsyD, but plenty of others. My qualifications, nor anything else, make me superior. But what I was trying to get across is hat just because someone grown up in a council house and goes to a local comp it does not dictate their life path. Neither does our parental values or attitudes, I was brought up with good ones. But there are many values I don't share with my parents. They just let me make my own way.
Well done in cleaning the wheels. I bet your interest in cars could be a great way to make money.0
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