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moral question, what to charge girlfriend!

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  • usefulmale
    usefulmale Posts: 2,627 Forumite
    You sound like a real catch. I bet she is thrilled.

    Unless, of course, you haven't mentioned your plans yet.
  • moneyistooshorttomention
    moneyistooshorttomention Posts: 17,940 Forumite
    cjdavies wrote: »
    Half of the bills expect mortgage.

    Modified to "half of the bills except mortgage" and I would think that's fair to her.

    Being fair to you = don't accept any money towards mortgage or any work on house (other than something very minor - such as repainting) - so she doesnt acquire any "beneficial interest" in the house. In case the relationship breaks up and she turned out to be one of those people that thinks a former relationship is an excuse to go after someone's money.
  • Bossypants
    Bossypants Posts: 1,273 Forumite
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    usefulmale wrote: »
    You sound like a real catch. I bet she is thrilled.

    Unless, of course, you haven't mentioned your plans yet.

    I don't think the OP is being unfair here, they're still reasoning out what to do. Mentioning meals out as if it's a business expense is a bit off, but sometimes people need to go through the motions in their heads before they reach a sensible conclusion.
  • SparksAlive
    SparksAlive Posts: 60 Forumite
    I'd ask her for maybe £100-£200 to cover bill increases and food shopping. Otherwise, I wouldn't charge for rent. It sounds like your circumstances are pretty different and if you're already managing alone, you don't need the money. If you eventually move and get a bigger place together, then it'd make sense for her to pay more.
  • glasgowdan
    glasgowdan Posts: 2,967 Forumite
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    She's your girlfriend...ask her.

    OR

    Show her this thread, see if she still wants to move in then :)
  • moneyistooshorttomention
    moneyistooshorttomention Posts: 17,940 Forumite
    The one thing to be sure and certain of is = don't make assumptions about how things will be between you financially.

    It's astonishing just how often - in any circumstances - one person has made one set of assumptions and known that "Of course that's how things are/that's what everyone does/etc/etc" until the day they meet someone that is also thinking "Of course that's how things are etc etc" based on a totally different set of assumptions.

    Even slightly different background or from slightly different area of the country and ...bingo....there are probably two different sets of assumptions there about how life is and one needs to have a discussion about something.
  • snickpan
    snickpan Posts: 154 Forumite
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    yup! Just seeing if there was a firm line of answers before I pop the question.
  • Geoff1963
    Geoff1963 Posts: 1,088 Forumite
    If there is an agreed financial arrangement between you, then there is a word for her status relative to you ; and it isn't "girl-friend".
  • ScorpiondeRooftrouser
    ScorpiondeRooftrouser Posts: 2,851 Forumite
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    If this is what's going through your head, don't ask her to move in.
  • Knicknack
    Knicknack Posts: 29 Forumite
    I misread that as "I want to change my girlfriend".

    Or maybe you actually do....
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