Too many holidays?

OP at least you haven't gone down the route of trying to have the best of both worlds! I know so many people who live on debt but 'have' everything. That thought would probably send you into a spin of anxiety!

I love my holidays and they have always taken priority. My house has never been my priority beyond essential maintenance. It's only now I've lived sensibly and frugally that I'm starting to be able to do both and get various cosmetic adjustments done to the house as well as have more holidays. However, when I was your age or a bit younger I could do no more than 1 fortnight holiday a year in Greece or Turkey and had a second job so I could also have a social life. We simply have to make compromises, or go down the debt route.

As others have said, I think you need to set a budget for holiday spend per year and allocate the rest to home stuff. You don't know if children are going to happen near future, mid term or not at all. Bear it in mind but you can sort that out when and if it happens. I'm thinking that your girlfriend likes to make all the arrangements for the trips too? If that's the case, to soften the blow of having less getaways perhaps you can sort the next one out from start to finish, get really involved, get really enthusiastic to show her that what is important to her is also important to you.

I'm sure that if it comes to a time when you live together that her priorities may also shift - yours might also as sharing household bills will increase your disposable income! You just really need to sit down and talk things through - if it were me it would be the weekend breaks that would go - as they drain the finances far more quickly than a couple of fortnight breaks. Or find something that's a lot cheaper, that could become 'your' place. A yurt in the countryside or something that you will always want to go back to, rather than a 4/5 star city hotel? Be imaginative and communicate with each other.

Oh yeah and I have been seeing my bloke nearly 18 months and we've had a 5 day break together and are about to go to Greece for a week. But in that time I've also had 3 beach holidays and a cultural trip on my own/group thing. He does his own thing quite a bit and so do I - our form of compromise which almost certainly does not suit anybody remotely normal, ha ha.

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Glad it's not just us! I went to Download weekend just gone and he went away with his mates, haha

Best way to be, IMO.

HBS x

Absolutely HBS, he will be off on a few short breaks with mates over the summer - I've told him they are welcome to Blackpool, ha ha. :-)

What you are doing is admirable but please dont forget, your only young once

Many people are young for a very long time! My parents are 'younger' now they are retired than they were in their 20s. They can now afford to jet off the world any time they want and they sure are doing so. They're never home! They are in their 70s, but very fit, going on long walks daily, no stopping them!

We only get one life and it can be cut short when you're least expecting it.

Indeed, but you can also spend many long years with very little money, hardly enough for small luxuries, let alone to afford nice holidays and breaks away.

It's an individual choice in the end, and OP shouldn't feel that his choices are wrong.

If life does bring poor health or financial problems, it can be a big relief to have somewhere nice to live with good quality stuff that won't cost too much to run and won't break down a lot.

It's possible to make great memories and have good times without spending lots of money and going abroad.