Real-life MMD: Should I pay to see my girlfriend?

My boyfriend and I are from opposite ends of the country. We live together now but there was a point last year where my Friday nights were spent at an airport, either waiting for him or waiting to get on a flight to London. I was unemployed for a few months and he was working. He paid for a few flights, he offered though - I didn't ask him to. We always managed to find cheap flights and I scraped together what money I could for trains/planes etc and if he paid for flights I would pay for food etc.
I'd be really annoyed if my bf had said to me 'I'll come and see you but only if you pay half for it'. If you love each other then you'll find a way to make it work. Maybe see each other every 2 weeks if money is tight.

lorena wrote: »

My boyfriend and I are from opposite ends of the country. We live together now but there was a point last year where my Friday nights were spent at an airport, either waiting for him or waiting to get on a flight to London.

Yes, I understand this feeling. My partner is French and we met when we both worked in the Philippines. He then returned to France and I stayed on before returning to the UK. He eventually moved to the UK but then lost his job and relocated to Switzerland. Two years later I joined him and we're both here now. We've spent thousands of pounds traveling around the world to see each other. If it's meant to be, you just get on with it. C'est la vie!

Hi, you don't say how far apart you actually are - my boyfriend is living and working overseas at the moment - I last saw him at the end of August and I won't see him again til Christmas!

I would say cut down the visits to every other weekend, also perhaps she can come to see you once a month or so instead of you always doing all the travelling.

I would just say, it will probably be a test of your relationship!! You don't say how long you've been together or how serious the relationship is - all these things make a difference.

Hummingbird

Isn't one, as far as I can see. When I was first going out with my (now ex) husband, I came down from London nearly every weekend to see him. Wouldn't have crossed my mind to get him to pay/contribute to my fare, even though he earnt loads more than me.

Mind you it never occured to him to offer, either. Partly explains why he's my ex!

Go once a month and do something else the other weekends - that way you'll have more to talk about when you do meet up.

my partner lives in the north of England, I live in Sardinia, two isolated areas in their own way. We both have an income albeit mine steadier and enough for me to live, travel to the US every couple of years to see family and of course spend my holidays in England. He can travel more often and - depending on the availability of cheap flights and cheap coaches/trains - comes to see me every month or every couple of months...with this regime it would be impossible not to share travel expenses, and everything else for that matter....the only thing we don't share are the house bills, neither here nor there, as we see each other for two-week spells or maximum for a month in summer....managing our expenses this way has helped us maintain a very long and tricky distance relationship alive and kicking for 4-years and more....in my opinion traveling expenses are different from getting treated to a night out or receiving an impromptu present...which is always very pleasant indeed!