What To Give Wife...

[britguy]

My wife does not work she looks after the kid. I pay for all the bills, food etc.

I give her £10 a week "luxury" spending money. Now she is moaning she wants more.

What say you?

[Chollita]

Get thee to the joke thread.

[alwaysonthego]

omg, you make it sound like you are paying for everything whist she merely stays at home looking after the 'kid'.

Presuming that you are not a troll, which I think you could well be. She looks after you child, she is not a skivvy. It would cost you alot more if she was to work in child care fees. Give the poor woman a break and treat her now and again, I am sure she could do with a break.

[Bossworld]

My wife does not work she looks after the kid. I pay for all the bills, food etc.

I give her £10 a week "luxury" spending money. Now she is moaning she wants more.

What say you?

A sex ban until she's more appreciative.

[emma12345]

I'm prob feeding the troll but I'll answer anyway!

Your wife does work, looking after kids is a 24 hour job, just not paid in £££'s.

And as for the "luxury" spending money, would you be happy with that? Are you not a team, working together and dividing things equally?

[britguy]

why should there be an equal divide, as i'm the one who's earning the money. Anyway it's not a 24/7 job as the kid is at school and i'm there in the evenings etc.

[lilac_lady]

What about giving her enough "luxury" spending money to buy one way tickets to far away for your wife and "the kid" ?

[LillyJ]

I suspect troll but oh well.

I cannot believe that any husband would give their wife "spending money"! Why on earth did you marry the poor woman? Marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership, you share money!

Try giving her enough money for a solicitor.

[britguy]

How's she a poor woman? She lives in nice house, has own car, etc.
If she wanted more money she could easily go out to work during the day but she just can't be bothered.

[RAMBLER]

Firstly motherhood is a 24 hour job, with no starting and finishing time, no lunch hours or breaks. So 24 hours X 7 devided by £10 is 16.8p an hour, but as i am generous lets round it up to 17p an hour. That is slave labour.....

How is she going to have any self esteem if she feels she is only worth £10 a week pamper money, she should feel as if she is priceless, especially to you and your child.

Treats can be free or cheap, a pamper day at the local college, or a massage from you, a bunch of flowers from your garden, a home cooked meal, the list is endless if money is an issue.....
And a better one givining her free time for herself where you look after the child

[Pink_butterfly]

Can she not work during school hours??

I would be bored as hell, just sitting at home all day or doing housework. Plus I would want my own independence and own money.

You've got alot of stick so far but I can see your point. What does she actually do all day??

[hazeyjewel]

I think I was once married to you:eek: :eek: :eek:

[britguy]

@ PB - dunno bit of housework, out and about, watching tv?

[Pink_butterfly]

@ PB - dunno bit of housework, out and about, watching tv?

How old is your child?

[ch0ccy]

Only £10/week?!??! :eek:

Gimme 2 seconds while I produce a list of luxuries £1.43 per day can buy you...erm...2 bags of Haribos?

[LillyJ]

How about treating her like an adult and the mother of your children rather than a child who gets "pocket money". What a bizzare way of conducting a relationship.

[britguy]

@PB - 13
@Choccy - um no, haribos would be classed as food, thus already bought
@ Rambler - clearly not. if you read my post.

[Pink_butterfly]

I really don't see how anyone can defend her now tbh.

Her 'kid' is 13!! She should get a job.

[LillyJ]

My Mum doesn't work (she has in the past but doesn't now) she is far from lazy and keeps the house. Her and my Dad share money like any normal couple.

If money is tight then she should get a job but otherwise this guy needs to realise that a marriage is not about giving out pocket money to one's partner.

[mark88man]

Firstly motherhood is a 24 hour job, with no starting and finishing time, no lunch hours or breaks. So 24 hours X 7 devided by £10 is 16.8p an hour, but as i am generous lets round it up to 17p an hour. That is slave labour.....

you say that like fatherhood isn't

How is she going to have any self esteem if she feels she is only worth £10 a week pamper money, she should feel as if she is priceless, especially to you and your child.

so the answer is somewhere between 10 and priceless hmmm room for manoevre

Treats can be free or cheap, a pamper day at the local college, or a massage from you, a bunch of flowers from your garden, a home cooked meal, the list is endless if money is an issue.....
And a better one givining her free time for herself where you look after the child

and what about time for me

[britguy]

nah I earn atleast 1.5x national average. but why should i give her my hard earned cash.
it's not like she keeps the house sterile. she also doesn't do the cooking.

[LillyJ]

The answer is you don't "give" her anything! You SHARE.

Or get a divorce

[britguy]

So 24 hours X 7 devided by £10 is 16.8p an hour, but as i am generous lets round it up to 17p an hour. That is slave labour.....


Actually Rambler, you've messed up with your calculations.

24x7 = 168.
10/168= 0.0595 x 100 = 5.9 pence per hour :)

Your calculation would have me paying her a staggering £28.22 per week :eek:

[Pink_butterfly]

I must be married to the wrong bloke because I look after two toddlers full-time and still have to work part-time to get my money.

I wish someone would give me cash for doing F all. Of course it must be hard on her having all that free time. You should be paying her at least £50 a week.

[hazeyjewel]

The kindest thing you could give her would be a divorce.I bet working full time would be easier than living with you;)

[LillyJ]

I must be married to the wrong bloke because I look after two toddlers full-time and still have to work part-time to get my money.

I wish someone would give me cash for doing F all. Of course it must be hard on her having all that free time. You should be paying her at least £50 a week.

I cannot believe you call it "my" money. Surely you are married therefore it is "our" money????

You don't "pay" your wife, that is very odd indeed.

[LilacPixie]

since when has looking after a child been doing 'F All'?? I must remember to tell my childminder this along with the news that I am paying her too much.

[hazeyjewel]

since when has looking after a child been doing 'F All'?? I must remember to tell my childminder this along with the news that I am paying her too much.
:T :T :T :T well said;)

[Pink_butterfly]

I cannot believe you call it "my" money. Surely you are married therefore it is "our" money????

You don't "pay" your wife, that is very odd indeed.

I don't really see why just because you're married everything suddenly becomes 'ours'. I like to have my own financial independence because I don't really see why my husband should have to pay for everything, especially my luxuries. It works well for us and always has.

Would you not start to get just a teensy bit annoyed of after ten odd years of your child going to school, your partner still didn't bother working?? Or would you not mind because of course its 'our' money?

[Pink_butterfly]

since when has looking after a child been doing 'F All'?? I must remember to tell my childminder this along with the news that I am paying her too much.

Are you actually reading his posts??

The child is 13 and goes to school full-time.

Trust me, I have two toddlers who I look after full-time and I know what hard work it is. Having nearly all day free, 5 days a week, doesn't sound like hard work to me.

[LillyJ]

I don't really see why just because you're married everything suddenly becomes 'ours'. I like to have my own financial independence because I don't really see why my husband should have to pay for everything, especially my luxuries. It works well for us and always has.

Would you not start to get just a teensy bit annoyed of after ten odd years of your child going to school, your partner still didn't bother working?? Or would you not mind because of course its 'our' money?

Well my Mum doesn't work and my Dad does. It isn't a problem as they aren't short of money. It is their money as they are in a partnership.

My OH is going to be a house husband (I am the main bread winner).

[Pink_butterfly]

Well my Mum doesn't work and my Dad does. It isn't a problem as they aren't short of money. It is their money as they are in a partnership.

My OH is going to be a house husband (I am the main bread winner).

Well, it obviously works for your mum & dad which is great.

As for your OH becoming a house husband - i'm assuming you're pregnant or have just had a baby. Its totally different. Babies are a full-time job, lol. But when your baby is 13 and at school full-time, will you not be expecting your husband to go back to work?

As much as I love my babies, its nice to have a bit of adult contact every now and then.

[britguy]

Well my Mum doesn't work and my Dad does. It isn't a problem as they aren't short of money. It is their money as they are in a partnership.

My OH is going to be a house husband (I am the main bread winner).

do you have his testicles in your purse aswell?

[Pink_butterfly]

do you have his testicles in your purse aswell?

Your wife has yours in the trophy cabinet by the sounds of it.

[britguy]

she has them in her mouth!

[Pink_butterfly]

she has them in her mouth!

You best give her some more money then otherwise the next thing you know she'll bite down hard, and you'll have to spend the rest of the evening looking for them in the garden :)

[teedy23]

I take it your really bored tonight britguy?

[LillyJ]

do you have his testicles in your purse aswell?

Sorry not sure what you mean by that.

He earns less than me, therefore he gives up work to look after house/children. He is happy with this as am I (I am a career woman).

[LilacPixie]

where does this school 'full time' idea come from. All the OP has said is the child is 13. For all we know the 13 year old CHILD may have issues.

Anyway school here is 9am to 12:15 and 13:15 to 15:30. I would say there are very few jobs, if any, that would fit in with these hours.

Not to mention if the OP if for real, which I doubt then his wife would be far better off divorcing him taking half the house, claiming benefits and taking him for maintanence. I'm guessing he would then be alot worse off than he is now.

[LillyJ]

do you have his testicles in your purse aswell?
If you are trying to suggest he should only get a wife who earns less than him, or that he should provide for his family, get over it!
Unlike some I would not be happy with some arrogant man "allowing" me £10 a week.

[looby-loo]

Are you expecting her to buy her clothes etc from this?

[pinkpig08]

I cannot understand why so much board-space has been taken up by this troll :confused: What's the point in answering his ridiculous post and letting him wind everyone up?

[surreysaver]

Doesn't she get child benefit and tax credits?

[debs66]

Britguy, are you sure you're not my ex-husband...? (note the ex bit)

you know, once i finally had enough i did so much better without him.:T

[geekgirl]

If you are fed up of the situation britguy why not quit your job and swap roles for a bit. Let your OH work and bring in the dosh and you have £10 a week luxury money.

[PasturesNew]

Doesn't she get child benefit and tax credits?
That isn't a parent's money. That money is the child's. It pays towards their keep. A Govt contribution.

[Tim_UK]

if the original poster is indeed paying all the bills, food and everything would it not make more sense for the wife to get no money but to ask the husband when money is needed for luxuries so he can decide whether these are indeed required.

[miss_edith]

I find it interesting that so many people think it is normal to expect half the working husband/wife's wages while they sit at home all day. Personally I'd lose all self-respect if I lived like that. Kids or not, I'd have to work at least part time for my own dignity. I see exactly what the OP's point is.

[Reggie Rebel]

£10 a week?

Blimey, hope my missus doesn't read this, she'll want a rise

[RoxieW]

Ummm - I'm a SAHM with 2 young children, but I can see the guys point.
Being a SAHM should be a joint decision. My hubby is very happy to have me at home looking after our 2 (one school, one preschool) as it makes his life a whole lot easier in ways that would cost more money than I could earn to buy. I take full responsibility for the childcare whereas, when I was working, he had to do his share of rushing home from work to pick them up from nursery or taking time off due to illness etc. I do the majority of the housework and all of the cooking. I also run the finances, make sure bills are paid on time etc.
So at the moment, we are both happy for me to be at home and the money that he earns is our money.

Incidentally, we both have £50 a month for luxuries. If we need more then its discussed with the other for example, when he wanted a ps3.

I'm happy with the situation at the moment as childcare costs/travel etc outweighed the financial benefits of me working - and I wanted to have some quality time with me youngest before he's at fulltime school too.

However, when they're both at fulltime school I'll be very happy to go out to work. You really cant beat the feeling of your wage packet contributing to the family.

Really, unless you live in a 6 bed mansion and keep it spotless, there really wouldn't be enough home 'work' to justify staying at home when the boys are at fulltime school.

I think with a 13 year old, she really should be working and contributing financially to the household - unless both partners are happy for her not to. There are many school hour jobs available and even if not, I was babysitting my siblings at 13 so I dont think a 13 year old needs Mum around at all times.

I do think the 'giving her money' attitude of the OP stinks a bit but I can imagine that there's a frustration and resentment there thats been building for some years.

[keelykat]

Hi ya, I can understand supporting your wife while she looks after your young baby/toddler as it is a full time job to do this and look after the home etc. However if the child is now 13 and at secondary school-then she could easily fit in a part time job if more money is needed/wanted.

Personally I could not stay at home all day not working at all by that stage. I would want my own bit of income to help support my husband and to give me some self respect and confidence.

Theres nothing wrong with being a 'housewife' when you've got young kids though, and letting your husband look after you-after all as i said it is a full time job at that stage.

I'm not going to get too personal, as everyones situations are different.

keely.

[viktory]

where does this school 'full time' idea come from. All the OP has said is the child is 13. For all we know the 13 year old CHILD may have issues.

Anyway school here is 9am to 12:15 and 13:15 to 15:30. I would say there are very few jobs, if any, that would fit in with these hours.

I wasn't going to respond to this thread, as I am sure the OP is a troll, but had to laugh at the above. There has been no mention of any special needs, therefore I think it is safe to assume there are none. A 13 yr old is quite capable of getting themselves up, dressed, breakfasted and to school, then home again. They would even be capable of doing some chores round the house (if both parents were working).

The OP's wife (assuming she exists, which I doubt) could easily get a full or part time job, without needing to fret about a 13 yr old.

Both my children were taking themselves to and from school AND doing chores at 13.

[debs66]

anyone considered that our new age man Mr Britguy may not allow his wife to work...?

afterall, he considers it his job to go out clubbing the meat and handing out the scraps as he sees fit.

i personally think it right that she works and contributes, but we haven't heard that she doesn't want to, just that she doesn't. i think more info is needed, but i too think the OP is enjoying winding up the MSE masses lol

[surreysaver]

That isn't a parent's money. That money is the child's. It pays towards their keep. A Govt contribution.

But if he's paying for everything anyway, it saves her giving him the money to pay for the child's stuff, and then him giving money back to her to spend on herself.

[LillyJ]

My Mum doesn't work and she doesn't have kids at home anymore. They don't need the money (and they do have a 6 bed house actually so it takes a lot of keeping clean). However she has worked a lot in the past, when money was needed more, and when I was younger. She went to University and had her own career as a teacher.
She is not lazy and has a huge amount of self respect for herself. She is not sponging off my Dad. They are a partnership, they share everything, money isn't separated into "his and hers", if they make a big purchase then they would discuss it.

She had cancer and decided that life was too short to work in a job you hate. She now volunteers in a Hospice, keeps an allotment and is happier. So is my Dad. To suggest she is losing self respect or confidence by doing this is extremely insulting.

She could never ever match his earnings due to the career she chose, but that doesn't mean she deserves less money or that she never contributed.

I don't give my partner "pocket money" even though he earns less than me. We share everything.

It is not the fact that she doesn't work that I feel strongly about, it is the fact that this man feels the need to give her a specific amount of pocket money. He says money isn't tight, so why is he doing this. To budget is one thing, but to treat his wife like a child who needs pocket money is disgusting.

[CB1979]

ditch her man, money grabbing cow!

women are all the same, want want want.

you supply a home, food and give her a bit of pocket money too.

selfish lazy cow.

[Scarlett1]

My wife does not work she looks after the kid. I pay for all the bills, food etc.

I give her £10 a week "luxury" spending money. Now she is moaning she wants more.

What say you?
I will do it for £20 and cook you a meal each night :D

[MrsE]

My wife does not work she looks after the kid. I pay for all the bills, food etc.

I give her £10 a week "luxury" spending money. Now she is moaning she wants more.

What say you?

A whole £10 for luxurys:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

My oh my, what will she spend all that on:rolleyes:

We gave our daughter as a teenager £20 a week till a year ago:rolleyes:

[daphne descends]

You know, some people - particularly on MSE - just seem to hate women. It's like a flashing neon sign of insecurity.

Divorce your wife and set her free.

[CB1979]

You know, some people - particularly on MSE - just seem to hate women. It's like a flashing neon sign of insecurity.

Divorce your wife and set her free.

WOOOOAAAAAAHHHHHHHH THERE Betty!!!!

isn't MSE the official Women's Liberation/Lezzers appreciation site, never known a site to be full of such man hate as this one, with the occassional decent bargain chucked in for good measure.

it's obvious this is one man's plight that is felt up & down the country day in day out by millions of men and will always be there until civilisation ceases to exist.

also for all you mum's who think looking after a child is a full-time job, i think not!
looking after your own child should be a pleasure, not a chore, so don't come out with that rubbish.

perhaps if more men decided to take the easy option out and bum around all day like the millions of housewives/stay at home mum's (who allegedly "do the house" too, big whoopie doo for you!), then perhaps they could instill some discipline in the children and we wouldn't have this chav culture that is ever present in today's society.

so to all you women, thanks for making the elderly scared of going out at night, you should all be ashamed for helping to bring this country to it's knees (quite rightly where you all belong!)

don't hate the player ladies, hate the game!

[Scarlett1]

WOOOOAAAAAAHHHHHHHH THERE Betty!!!!

isn't MSE the official Women's Liberation/Lezzers appreciation site, never known a site to be full of such man hate as this one, with the occassional decent bargain chucked in for good measure.

it's obvious this is one man's plight that is felt up & down the country day in day out by millions of men and will always be there until civilisation ceases to exist.

also for all you mum's who think looking after a child is a full-time job, i think not!
looking after your own child should be a pleasure, not a chore, so don't come out with that rubbish.

perhaps if more men decided to take the easy option out and bum around all day like the millions of housewives/stay at home mum's (who allegedly "do the house" too, big whoopie doo for you!), then perhaps they could instill some discipline in the children and we wouldn't have this chav culture that is ever present in today's society.

so to all you women, thanks for making the elderly scared of going out at night, you should all be ashamed for helping to bring this country to it's knees (quite rightly where you all belong!)

don't hate the player ladies, hate the game!
maybe if some men stuck around and put their children first it wouldn't be left to some women to discipline their children :rolleyes:

you sound a right woman hater and obviously very ignorant to think we have a chav society cause some women don't do housework :rotfl:

[galvanizersbaby]

Blimey - lots of different points of view here!:confused:

I'm a single mum who works full time with 2 children aged 4 and 5 - can't quite see why somebody with a 13 year old child at school wouldn't work and contribute myself but guess there could be many reasons.

When my ex hubbie was around he worked P/T and I worked full time simply for financial reasons due to me being the higher earner - now we are divorced we share the childcare and both work full time

I couldn't imagine being financially dependent on somebody else and having small children - especially somebody that sounds like this OP:D

[smudger1964]

I will do it for £20 and cook you a meal each night :D

Oh yes please ill give you £30 any extras !!

[poppyscorner]

Personally I think britguy has got exactly what he wants he has got all mse users in a flap and the thread has descended into man hating women hating yet again.

And britguy if you are for real you and your wife deserve to be together you are both acting selfish and its "the kid" that I feel for.

For the record I have 2 kids aged 5 and 18mths and I have always worked ft I am now training to be a nurse also ft and we manage because we compromise.

[CB1979]

maybe if some men stuck around and put their children first it wouldn't be left to some women to discipline their children :rolleyes:


well the men can't stick around, cos they have to earn money for the lazy women "working" at home, and by providing for their children they are indeed putting the children first.

[Sarahjovi]

A friend of mine divorced her husband, because he checked every till receipt and the bank statement. And if she wanted to buy something other than regular items, she had to phone him for permission.:eek:

Controlling men:mad:

Sarah:D

[OrkneyStar]

Just to add, my OH and I each have less than this per week for ourselves. We don't feel the need to 'treat' ourselves to feel worthwhile.
Do you have loads more than her every week ? If so I would consider giving her a bit more. If not, and you are not that well off, then maybe she could work part-time while your child is at school if she really wants more cash to spend on herself ?

[daphne descends]

WOOOOAAAAAAHHHHHHHH THERE Betty!!!!

isn't MSE the official Women's Liberation/Lezzers appreciation site, never known a site to be full of such man hate as this one, with the occassional decent bargain chucked in for good measure.

it's obvious this is one man's plight that is felt up & down the country day in day out by millions of men and will always be there until civilisation ceases to exist.

also for all you mum's who think looking after a child is a full-time job, i think not!
looking after your own child should be a pleasure, not a chore, so don't come out with that rubbish.

perhaps if more men decided to take the easy option out and bum around all day like the millions of housewives/stay at home mum's (who allegedly "do the house" too, big whoopie doo for you!), then perhaps they could instill some discipline in the children and we wouldn't have this chav culture that is ever present in today's society.

so to all you women, thanks for making the elderly scared of going out at night, you should all be ashamed for helping to bring this country to it's knees (quite rightly where you all belong!)

don't hate the player ladies, hate the game!

You're right, it's not a full time job.

If I was in my full time job (I do have one) then I would have an hour's lunch break everyday, uninterrupted. I would be paid at least the national minimum wage and have working time regulations which restrict the amount of work I could undertake in any given week. I might be paid a bonus for overtime. I'd clock off at 5.30 every day and you wouldn't catch me in the office before 8.00 am. If I was poorly I could take time off and I might even get paid for it. I would have at least 4 weeks paid holidays per year and every bank holiday to myself. I would have appraisals, receive recognition for my achievements, and possibly a pay rise every year.

This isn't a full time job, a full time job is a piece of !!!! in comparison.

The rest of your post is nasty. Very nasty.

[asea]

Don't feed the troll!

[claire1234]

wow . .. . well this is an eye opener for me!
giving your wife money?! this is like giving a child some pocket money and to be honest my step kids get more than that a week,

i would honestly not give you wife any money at all apart from what is needed for thing like:
food shopping / kids clothing / kids pocket money / school money / dinner money / travel money / tolitires / petrol/diesel money.

if you pay all the bills (direct debit?) then theres no need for extra money for bills and it doesnt sound like she needs anything really,

my hubby works so all bills are paid from this money and another income is our ebay which i do but i dont expect him to go to work all week then hand his wages over to me, i do ebay during the day along with housework (the usual) do all cooking and cleaning,
tea is always ready when he gets home but this is my choice not his, i enjoy to cook for him but i also want a part time job.
i dont think i really need treat money or something such, if we need anything we just work and how much we have and get it, money is always shared in a way of we share the responsibility of paying the bills,

perhaps you could stop giving her the weekly money and give her more responsibility with the finances and stuff like that?
it is a bit childish giving her weekly money but then again i woudnt give her any at all as if she wanted some pocket money of her own there are dinner lady jobs which work around school times,
perhaps you could help her get a job?

btw do you give you child pocket money?
do you give yourself a allowance?

[Emmy_L]

I'm not entirely sure why people are in a 'flap' over OP's wife's suppossed poor treatment?
My hubby and I both have £40 per month "pocket money" that he spends on his games for his consoles and I use for meeting friends for lunch,going swimming etc.
Seems to me be very sensible as the rest of our money gets swallowed up in the kids,house,bills etc.
If a person is a smoker,or a drinker,or both and are selfishly racking up money that way,with their partner getting nothing then I could understand the uproar.
However,the wife has spare time,gets to run her own car and the like,so maybe her helping supplement the income is not such a bad idea.

[mspig]

So who gets the child benefit, child tax credits or working tax credits, do you get those as well as your wage?

As far as £10.00 goes i spent more than that today on myself for a change in Boots.

I think to give your wife pocket money is really putting her down, she has a right to a life as well.

What luxuries do you buy for yourself(be honest) do you smoke, drink(home or the pub), how many times a week do you go out to the pub etc, what about eating out? these are all luxuries and they cost a lot more than £10.00.

So does your wife when at home not clean the house, hoover, make the beds, wash the clothes? Do you do the food shopping or does she get money to do this aswell, as long as its spent on the food.

Sorry but i think you are completely wrong in what you are doing and i wouldn't be surprised if she goes off with someone else who offers her a decent living, and allows her to be incontrol of her life as this is what it seems like to me you like the control you have over her not letting her do anything for herself and not giving her enough to do anything with you wouldn't like.

[Mojisola]

Look at Britguy's posts - he's just winding everybody up.

[briona]

Has nobody considered that maybe after 13 years of staying at home with 'the kid', the OP's wife might find it hard to get a job? Confidence issues aside, despite the number of no-qualifications-needed low paid jobs out there, many still expect you to have some experience, which, if you've stayed at home for years, you just wouldn't have...

[omen666]

Unbelievable. This forum is for advice and in no time at all Britguy has been berated by regular forum users who are bitter about their own experiences. No doubt due to this he is now responding back in kind

Accused of being a troll when he comes on here making his first post ASKING FOR ADVICE, no wonder some dont stay around for long.

In his world this has been acceptable for him to give her a tenner a week, If she was bothered about it should would have asked for more but obviously hasn't. He obviously thinks he is out of touch and maybe not giving enough thus the post for advice on what others think, The bitter comments of she should get half or I would divorce you help no-one including the OP. I see 10's of posts on here these days where someone posts for help and they get berated rahter than the advice requested, you should all be ashamed of yourselves, you found this forum in the beginning as others helped you, try and do the same !!!!!!! back.

@ Britguy, I would ask her what she thinks is a reasonable amount and compromise from there. Money is tight in most households these days that it is hard to BST secure things these days.

[pinksleepybear]

Unbelievable. This forum is for advice and in no time at all Britguy has been berated by regular forum users who are bitter about their own experiences. No doubt due to this he is now responding back in kind

Accused of being a troll when he comes on here making his first post ASKING FOR ADVICE, no wonder some dont stay around for long.


Omen666, if you look at Britguy's previous posts, they are all very agressive....someone was asking about returning a chair that broke, Britguy says they must be too fat....someone else was asking for advice about dealing with their in-laws, Britguy says the inlaws don't want to be seen with someone so ugly.

I really believe this guy is a troll.

[plob]

I suspect troll but oh well.

I cannot believe that any husband would give their wife "spending money"!


i have to agree with you on that one :T

[abarthman]

I'm shocked at some of the nasty comments aimed at Britguy.

He asked for advice and many of you (all women, I presume) piled right in with personal attacks.

Who are you to dictate what a working man should give his wife for treats. Remember it's treats we are talking about here. He already takes care of the other household expenditure. I think it should be treat enough for her to sit watching whatever passes for daytime TV all day, whilst Britguy slaves away at work.

Many wives never get see a penny from their husbands and have to rifle their pockets for spare change to meet the cost of household essentials whilst they sleep off a pay-day drinking session. And they still don't complain.

Some of you women really don't know you're born!

[omen666]

Omen666, if you look at Britguy's previous posts, they are all very agressive....someone was asking about returning a chair that broke, Britguy says they must be too fat....someone else was asking for advice about dealing with their in-laws, Britguy says the inlaws don't want to be seen with someone so ugly.

I really believe this guy is a troll.I see what you are saying but I still think that someone new to a forum is jumped on then they are not going to give the forum the respect it desrves. I know if I was berated then I would feel inclined to spam and abuse other posters just out of spite. Not ideal I know but if it where happen to me I would think WTF and sod it.

[Cornishpixie]

nah I earn atleast 1.5x national average. but why should i give her my hard earned cash.
it's not like she keeps the house sterile. she also doesn't do the cooking.
:rotfl: :rotfl: Didn't you both sign contracts on roles within the marriage and a pre- nuptual agreement then?:rolleyes:

[Bitsy Beans]

WOOOOAAAAAAHHHHHHHH THERE Betty!!!!

isn't MSE the official Women's Liberation/Lezzers appreciation site, never known a site to be full of such man hate as this one, with the occassional decent bargain chucked in for good measure.

it's obvious this is one man's plight that is felt up & down the country day in day out by millions of men and will always be there until civilisation ceases to exist.

also for all you mum's who think looking after a child is a full-time job, i think not!
looking after your own child should be a pleasure, not a chore, so don't come out with that rubbish.

perhaps if more men decided to take the easy option out and bum around all day like the millions of housewives/stay at home mum's (who allegedly "do the house" too, big whoopie doo for you!), then perhaps they could instill some discipline in the children and we wouldn't have this chav culture that is ever present in today's society.

so to all you women, thanks for making the elderly scared of going out at night, you should all be ashamed for helping to bring this country to it's knees (quite rightly where you all belong!)

don't hate the player ladies, hate the game!

Bitter are we?
You sound as much as a wind up merchant as britguy.

And sorry I've been on enough forums to see britguy is nothing more than a troll - regardless to how he supposedly asks for advice. To portray his wife as he did as someone who has to ask for money as he controls everything was hardly going to have a measured reaction.
He may as well have said he chains her to the kitchen sink. Quite frankly if she's such a lazy woman I wonder why he's still married to her?

[liney]

Now it does appear to be a wind up, but lets pretend it isn't.

Whilst it seems wrong to give the wife pocket money, isn't it also wrong to sit at home for 6 hours a day if your husband doesn't agree with you being a 'Housewife': he does have some say if he is paying the bills i think?!

[omen666]

apparantly she gives good head.CB1 your a fud, I think your post is disgusting and BST - Bull $hit Twaddle

[CB1979]

sorry i should've put "allegedly" instead of apparantly.

[andyrules]

sorry i should've put "allegedly" instead of apparantly.

I was wondering how you knew that;)

[Scarlett1]

Oh yes please ill give you £30 any extras !!
well I will make you a nice cup of tea if thats what you mean :D

[Scarlett1]

well the men can't stick around, cos they have to earn money for the lazy women "working" at home, and by providing for their children they are indeed putting the children first.
cmon just becasue one woman might have p1ssed on your cornflakes don't mean they all will :rotfl:

[smudger1964]

well I will make you a nice cup of tea if thats what you mean :D

nice cup of tea :tongue::tongue: that will go down well

[Tinsle]

britguy, you need to get yourself over to the 'arms' and put this topic up for discussion there. I'm sure a few of our regulars will give you some tips on how to whittle the £10 down.

[omen666]

What's arms?

[Paparika]

I'm sure the 13 year old can get them selves to school and get home do homework etc,

that's a full time job she can do.

mind you when i had my child, my ex wouldn't give me money, and i mean personal ladies monthly things is what i needed but he would not give me money for them, said i would waste the money.....

and i wasn't allowed to get a job,

i ignored him got a job, my friend babysat a few hours an afternoon for me for free..., 4 years of that was enough, i divorced him (married 10 years in total).

since then I've worked all the hours i could, and pay for a childminders just so i didn't get called a chav and live off the state, even if i am now classed as a 'single mum'


Tell her if she wants more money she knows where the job centre is

[Rachie B]

Can she not work during school hours??

I would be bored as hell, just sitting at home all day or doing housework. Plus I would want my own independence and own money.

You've got alot of stick so far but I can see your point. What does she actually do all day??
:rotfl: pmsl

you don't literally have to "stay at home" when you are a stay at home parent you know :rotfl:;)

[Rachie B]

What's arms?
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.html?f=58

[CB1979]

What's arms?

generally connected to your shoulders and usually have hands attached at the bottoms.

often have a joint in the middle called an elbow

hope this helps

* disclaimer, that brief description doesn't take into account amputees

[Bitsy Beans]

apparantly she gives good head.

If that is the case I'd say she was definately worth more than £10 a week :rotfl:

[sparklygirl1]

OK so my hubby works very much so full time and he gives me £50 per week for myself. As he does work away rather alot I can't get a part time job, so this is my money to spend how I like. However as a full time Mum it defenitaly gets spent on my LO, ok so every two months I will get my hair done for £40, but thats about it. I don't buy clothes or anything else like that for myself but I do buy LO's clothes, shoes, activities, petrol to ferry LO to activities and hobbies and even lunch out for three of us. This works for us as a family and you have to do what works for you. I the £10 is purely for your wife and nothing else then maybe that is ok for your family life and budget. I think you have to do what is right for you.

[Rachie B]

Correct, you just hang around wondering what other "mums" think about you before you trot down to Morrisons.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=927627
:confused: I am not a stay at home mum

[CB1979]

:confused: I am not a stay at home mum

yeah but you can tell you want to be.

[Rachie B]

yeah but you can tell you want to be.

:rolleyes: yeah alrighty then, whatever you say

I have been one, but now work ( for the past 2.5 yrs) is that ok with you ? :D

[CB1979]

lazy layabout

[Rachie B]

lazy layabout

talking to yourself again ? :confused: :D

[CB1979]

you're not flirting are you?

[Paparika]

Can i suggest you get a room?

[Rachie B]

you're not flirting are you?

with you ? don't make me larf :D

go and annoy someone else,having looked through your replies that's all you like to do :rolleyes:

ah well little minds n all that

byeeee :wave:

[Rachie B]

Can i suggest you get a room?
:confused: by me saying to him, are you talking to yourself?

since when did this = flirting / the need to "get a room" :confused:

you guys have some weeeeeeird ideas :confused:

[Nitha]

Honestly I'm a full-time mum to a 4 month old and I don't get 'spending money' as such. If we need anything I ask OH do we have the money and I get a yay/nay. OH treats me with occasional bottle of wine/box of chocs, but so long as he's not spending excessively and me living as though I'm in poverty I don't mind.

With a 13 YO however a part time job is not out of the question. However if your wife works you're expected to do your share of the housework!

[Nitha]

WOOOOAAAAAAHHHHHHHH THERE Betty!!!!


so to all you women, thanks for making the elderly scared of going out at night, you should all be ashamed for helping to bring this country to it's knees (quite rightly where you all belong!)

Lol - the elderly make me scared to go out in the day! You'll be amazed at what comes out of their mouths if they think you're a teen mum! (I'm 'blessed' with teenage skin in my mid 20s!)

[CB1979]

LOL - Rachie B, sums up uptight women in general nice one.

just chill out, damn

[Paparika]

:confused: by me saying to him, are you talking to yourself?

since when did this = flirting / the need to "get a room" :confused:

you guys have some weeeeeeird ideas :confused:

ouchie, i've got frostbite

[neverdespairgirl]

. Babies are a full-time job, lol.

A full-time job is 40 or so hours a week - babies are a double full-time job!

[Badger_Lady]

The question shouldn't be "how hard does she work" - as partner in a marriage, the decision should be made based on one question: how much "luxury money" does the troll Britguy have for himself each week?

That amount should be split equally between them and, if it's insufficient (after all necessities are paid for), they should look at options for upping their joint income.