Anxiety/worries - how do you manage yours?

[quietheart]

I guess most people worry but I worry more than most. I seem quite positive outwardly but generally expect the worst. Sometimes I wake up with a knot of anxiety in my stomach and know it'll be a bad day. When you feel like that how do you get yourself out of it? I know worry is pointless (like paying interest on something you'll never own) but how do you stop it? :confused:

[Psykicpup]

I like to work out a worst case scenario then an action plan for if that happens - that way I'm prepared for the worst & can let it rest until the situation is over - or if its a vague kinda worry, I bury myself in a good book until I feel better

[wolfehouse]

sometimes its about changing how you think about things.
cbt works for some people. you can do it online for free.
http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elearning/

[quietheart]

sometimes its about changing how you think about things.
cbt works for some people. you can do it online for free.
http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elearning/
i remember looking at this a year or two ago, will have another look now, thanks for the reminder!

[ailuro2]

Keep a note of what the bad thing is that you might happen, and see how often you have 'overworried'

Things don't always turn out for the worst, but I believe that sometimes we 'make our own luck'- if we think we will fail then we may not try our best, and end up faillng anyway. If we think we can, then we give it our best shot and sometimes get surprisingly positive results.:D

A knot in your stomach does not make the coming day bad. How you cope with any challenges thrown at you decides how much you enjoy the day.:D

I hope you have a good day today.

[larmy16]

A lot of people comment on how laid back I am. Not so. Inside I am a mass of swirling anxiety and analysing everything (exhausting). Every now and again it all builds up, so that I cannot cope and I need to have a good cry.

I also find getting stuck into a really good book extremely therapeutic. There is nothing like a page turner to take your mind off your own problems.

[princess pixiedust]

I manage my anxiety through a mix of cbt, controlling my breathing and relaxing, i suffer panic attacks brought on from my agrophobia, also do living live to the full and moodgym, i find i prefer the mood gym site better than others.

I also use aromatheapy for relaxation.

Kyle

[quietheart]

I manage my anxiety through a mix of cbt, controlling my breathing and relaxing, i suffer panic attacks brought on from my agrophobia, also do living live to the full and moodgym, i find i prefer the mood gym site better than others.I also use aromatheapy for relaxation.
Kyle


do you have any links that i could use? pretty please?!

[quietheart]

A lot of people comment on how laid back I am. Not so. Inside I am a mass of swirling anxiety and analysing everything (exhausting). Every now and again it all builds up, so that I cannot cope and I need to have a good cry.I also find getting stuck into a really good book extremely therapeutic. There is nothing like a page turner to take your mind off your own problems.
you sound just like me, i'm not so bad in the evening when i can be distracted by tv/books, it's during the day when i should be busy with the kids that i feel the anxiety the most and it's not them causing it........

[pinkshoes]

I used to worry and feel anxious all the time, although anyone who meets me seemed to think i was cool, calm and collected! I took up yoga and exercise to control it, and now i rarely stress about anything. Except if we're going to be late for something, and THEN i get stressed and stroppy!!

My friend swears by running to control anxiety, because you can think about what's bothering you whilst pounding the pavement, then when you step back inside your front door, it's gone.

[henmuffin]

Hi remember that everybody has worries and stress is perfectly natural. Sometimes it just gets out of control. The way out is by making a few small changes to your lifestyle. These could include doing daily exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Buy or borrow a relaxation cd and listen to this every day if you can. Spend time with friends and family, supportive relationships are really important. CBT is effective but you need to learn how to challenge your negative thoughts. A good book to read is 'Self help for your nerves' by Clare Weeks or 'Manage your Mind' but I can't remember who the author is. If you make a few small changes you should feel a bit better. I hope this is helpful. Good luck.

[princess pixiedust]

Heres moodgym link : http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

Kyle

[quietheart]

Hi remember that everybody has worries and stress is perfectly natural. Sometimes it just gets out of control. The way out is by making a few small changes to your lifestyle. These could include doing daily exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Buy or borrow a relaxation cd and listen to this every day if you can. Spend time with friends and family, supportive relationships are really important. CBT is effective but you need to learn how to challenge your negative thoughts. A good book to read is 'Self help for your nerves' by Clare Weeks or 'Manage your Mind' but I can't remember who the author is. If you make a few small changes you should feel a bit better. I hope this is helpful. Good luck.

Will try and get hold of that book. I have a big family and lots of good friends. I just find it incredibly difficult to admit to my anxiety. I think because it's mainly about house problems, major work that i can't begin to afford and it's pretty trivial and I'd feel embarrassed, my friends would wish they only had my level of problems. I'm always sorting out other peoples problems but am no good on my own. I find a problem and my mind immediately spirals to the house falling down and being unsaleable, my stomach knots and i can't get back to where i was. I sound really pathetic don't i?!

[lewt]

found this hope it helps. http://www.emotionsanonymous.org/

[Let_Robinson_Sing]

Heres moodgym link : http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

Kyle

WOW that place is really good. just finished thoughts and feelings module.

[ShirleyPark]

I have "Manage Your Mind" and it's really good and has helped me lots.

Off to take a look at the moodgym website

[scoobysue]

A lot of people comment on how laid back I am. Not so. Inside I am a mass of swirling anxiety and analysing everything (exhausting). Every now and again it all builds up, so that I cannot cope and I need to have a good cry.

I also find getting stuck into a really good book extremely therapeutic. There is nothing like a page turner to take your mind off your own problems.

i know what you mean, for me personally when i feel worried or am fretting about things in general, i take a book i know i will enjoy (usually a jill mansell as they are so true to life and funny lighthearted ) and i will drive over to a favourite place (in my case bakewell, derbyshire) and sit reading my book by the river with the ducks, or else i walk to a nearby park area where i can sit quietly and read or gather my thoughts together, the sound of a running stream/river and ducks never fails to chill me out. good luck,

[TheWaltons]

I guess most people worry but I worry more than most. I seem quite positive outwardly but generally expect the worst. Sometimes I wake up with a knot of anxiety in my stomach and know it'll be a bad day. When you feel like that how do you get yourself out of it? I know worry is pointless (like paying interest on something you'll never own) but how do you stop it? :confused:

Think positive thoughts... honestly.. wake up in the morning .. tell yourself how great you are and how good your life is... and you will feel the weight come off your shoulders!!! Think positively all day long.. you will start to believe the positive thoughts just like you are constantly believing the sub conscious negative thoughts!!!

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is a brilliant book...

[santashelper]

i was raised in a very negative family so negative thoughts seen to enter my mind automatically and its a real batter to change them

i can get anxiety attacks come on with no warning when im out and i get all the symptoms of fight or flight exhuastion, pounding heart, my eyes ache, legs turn to jelly,feel distant, drained but on a positive note i am facing my fears has anyone else been through this and come out the other side i had a breakdown 4 years ago and have moved slowly forward but this is doing my head in.

[patwa]

I'm a bit like you as well. Outwardly I'm quite calm, maybe too calm and am always portraying the happy go lucky attitude. I seem to have relaxed too much recently, I've noticed people saying I should take things more seriously and getting annoyed when i don't seem to.

But I do worry inside, usually I'm quite good at just ignoring it, after all there's no point worrying about things we can't control, what will happen will happen and all that.

Sometimes I worry for no reason. Like today, my mum said that for the first time she's really nervous about us going on holiday to Tanzania. We've been there quite a few times before, and she said it's not even about the flight or visas or anything like that, she's just nervous about being there. And then I realised that for the last few days I've been feeling the same way. I just feel that something, somewhere isn't right, but I can't put my finger on it. It's like when you're watching a film, you know something is going to happen and can probably guess what, but you're still worried. Except in this case I don't know what is going to happen and can't put my finger on anything, oh and it's not a film. But something just doesn't feel right, does that make any sense?

I've never believed in gut feelings or self-intuition, usually when I worry it's just a concern that I can try to rationalise. but tonight I can just feel inside me almost as a certainty that something isn't right. It's like a churning in my stomach, I can almost feel the whatever it is that's going to happen getting closer and closer.

H.

[judderman62]

A good book to read is 'Self help for your nerves' by Clare Weeks .

Ooooh I'm sure I have that somewhere in my collection of self help books :)

[judderman62]

Think positive thoughts... honestly.. wake up in the morning .. tell yourself how great you are and how good your life is... and you will feel the weight come off your shoulders!!! Think positively all day long.. you will start to believe the positive thoughts just like you are constantly believing the sub conscious negative thoughts!!!

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is a brilliant book...

The books good but I hate with a passion a tape I got of affirmations by Susan Jeffers :mad: :mad: :mad:

but the book is indeed good

Most stuff by Gael Lindenfield is pretty good too and comes without the Cheesiness of some of the American authors.

[judderman62]

i was raised in a very negative family so negative thoughts seen to enter my mind automatically and its a real batter to change them

i can get anxiety attacks come on with no warning when im out and i get all the symptoms of fight or flight exhuastion, pounding heart, my eyes ache, legs turn to jelly,feel distant, drained but on a positive note i am facing my fears has anyone else been through this and come out the other side i had a breakdown 4 years ago and have moved slowly forward but this is doing my head in.

sounds like my upbringing - nothing but negativity comes out of my fathers mouth - from cradle to present.

I have a good book on this I must read again - called Negaholics - sadly I think it is out of print so if interested - a hunt on ebay or a specialist book dealer may be the only way to get a copy ( I used the latter method)

[judderman62]

wow this is the second thread I have stumbled across tonight that interests me.

Hi all :wave: :hello: