When to buy an eternity ring?!?

[doctormo2003]

Hi all,

Just wanted some advice please.

I have been engaged to my girl now for a year and she is due our first child in January. I just wonderd about eternity rings. Do I have to buy her one now, or when baby is born or after we are married or when?!? Totally confused. ???How come females get three rings and males only get 1? Hmmmm?!?!?

Any advice please.

Many thanks

Doc

[savvy]

Hey I don't get ANY!!!! ::)
I don't think you have to buy her one at all, as I understand it, men generally buy one after a certain number of happily married years, to celebrate the relationship (bit like renewing your vows).........................but hey, I've not been married and never been with a bloke that would buy me one anyway.................so what would I know!!! ::) ::)

[trafalgar]

"How come females get three rings and males only get 1? Hmmmm!? "

awwww that's easy ,jewellery looks better on us than is does on you men,sexist yes but true ;D ;D

[Js_Other_Half]

Traditionally an eternity ring is given on the birth of the first child...

If you haven't already sorted out a wedding ring, you could have both made to match the engagement ring?

Congratulations by the way! ;D

[tammy_nadine]

I'm glad you said that, my hubby said I had to wait until 25 years of marriage to get my eternity ring! Maybe I can get two.....or maybe some nice diamond earrings ;D

[hilstep2000]

You can buy one for a first anniversary, a first child or another major anniversary. I got mine on our 10th, would have liked another for our 20th, but we got divorced a few months afterwards! LOL! :)

[MimiJane]

As far as I understand it, there are no hard and fast rules as to when/if to buy an eternity ring. Just a nice gesture of friendship as far as I know. ???

[Ticklemouse]

I don't really do jewellery, but did want a nice eternity ring. First anniversary came and went, births of 2 children came and went, so when it was my 40th (no, I'm not that old really ;D ) I decided the only way I was going to get one, was to find it, show it to him and tell him to pay for it. He did!

OK, it's not the most romantic way of receiving an eternity ring but Mr TM and romantic don't even live in the same postal district, never mind sentance!
(I've also bought my own Xmas pressies this year - saves me being disappointed or having to take them back)

I'd say, save your money for the moment and get her one later on, at a time that's special to you.

[Squidgy]

My daughters 2, we got married this February. I told hubby I would like an eternity ring for our first anniversary.

We'll see :-/

[Hotblack_Desiato]

when you want to stay with her for an eternity :o

[MATH]

It is traditional to give an eternity ring on the birth of the first child or after a period of happy marriage. 5 years is quite long enough to wait though! Can't believe what stinge-mongers some of you !ladies are wed too (I'm sure ya still love em thought ;D)

It's quite unusal to buy an eternity ring before being married, quite difficult to choose the style as well, because you don't know how the engagement ring, wedding band and eternity band will sit together. If your first child is born before the wedding I would buy a different piece of jewelery to commemorate the event and purchase an eternity ring later.

A good piece of jewelery should follow every birth, significant anniversary and birthday IMO

[Ticklemouse]

Oh MATH, I expect you know where the vacuum cleaner is AND how to use it too, and that cleaning a bathroom is more than just hanging up the towels and flushing the loo ;D

Why did I never find men with opinions like yours? ::) ;D ::)

[MATH]

LOL @ Ticklemouse. Drawback is while I'm at home polishing my slo-cooker Mrs MATH has to go out and bring home the bacon ;D

[robnye]

LOL @ Ticklemouse. Drawback is while I'm at home polishing my slo-cooker Mrs MATH has to go out and bring home the bacon ;D

i've got a slow cooker at home..... no matter what i say she still wont cook dinner any quicker... ;) ;D

[Savvy_Sue]

How come females get three rings and males only get 1?
I offer myself as the model of economy. I have only an engagement ring - I loved almost the cheapest in the shop, which was just as well because he was stony broke - and his grandmother's wedding ring, which we had to get resized. The two match beautifully.

Mr SS hasn't even got a wedding ring. Thinks real men don't wear jewellery, even wedding rings!

(That's not quite true: he has eczema and being a true MSE decided that having a ring which he probably wouldn't be able to wear because it would irritate his skin wasn't a good investment. Doesn't even wear a watch for that reason.)

A good piece of jewelery should follow every birth, significant anniversary and birthday IMO
It's a lovely thought, but I already have more jewellery than I wear! The beautiful bracelet he gave me one anniversary never leaves my wrist, mind you!

[Lillibet]

My husband bought me an eternity ring for our fist anniversary, we weren't married or even enganged, it was just our first anniversary together ;D I saw it as a good omen that he willingley bought jewellery! We are now married (no engagement ring but a diamond-set wedding ring) & expecting our first child (upon who's birth I don't expect to receive any jewellery, we'll be to broke paying for all the babay stuff!)

[rushnowt]

My nan once told me that an eternity ring was given on the birth of the first child, how true it is , i have no idea, didnt work for me though, i had 5 and still didnt get one, it took me over 10 yrs of marriage, its still in the box, cos it was to small and the tight git wont have it re-sized :o :o ::) ::)

[Quackers]

Now I'm off to set this very page as our homepage as I'm feeling a little left out. ;)

I've been hinting for a while about how nice eternity rings are and how much I like them.

Two Children & 13 years of marriage later & I'm still waiting :(

And now I know I should have got one 12 years ago - well!!

[Spendless]

It's entirely upto you, though i agree with one of the other posters that it needs to suit both the engagement and weddingrings.

We could only afford a cheap engagement ring, and the promise was that one day i'd have a more expensive one.

Anyway a few months ago i got a new ring but i didn't really want to replace my engagement ring or get an eternity ring, so instead i have a ring with 3 diamonds ina row. Is called a triologyring and each stone represents your past,present and your future.

Best wishes whatever you decide :)

[beanytot]

My hubby heard somewhere that it traditional to give an eternity ring after the birth of the first child so, dutifully, after our son was born asked me if I would like to choose one as he had been saving up for it (bless). Unfortunately, I had (ahem!) put on quite a bit of pregnancy weight and so asked if I could choose one after I had lost a bit, as a sort of incentive!!!

I ended up getting pregnant again before that could happen! So, the moral of my tale is that I would have had one after the birth of my first baby but didn't. It was the chocolate digestive's fault!

[savvy]

It is traditional to give an eternity ring on the birth of the first child or after a period of happy marriage. 5 years is quite long enough to wait though! Can't believe what stinge-mongers some of you !ladies are wed too (I'm sure ya still love em thought ;D)

It's quite unusal to buy an eternity ring before being married, quite difficult to choose the style as well, because you don't know how the engagement ring, wedding band and eternity band will sit together. If your first child is born before the wedding I would buy a different piece of jewelery to commemorate the event and purchase an eternity ring later.

A good piece of jewelery should follow every birth, significant anniversary and birthday IMO
I'm in lurve!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) ;D

[Queenie]

I received mine after 5yrs of marriage.

Never realised it was "traditional" to give it after the birth of the first child, but, having read this thread I am having a little (sadistic!) chuckle to myself ...

... POOR GUYS ... we all know how expensive having that 1st child can be and now I'm learning they have to stump up for an eternity ring too!!!!??? :o ;)

My Dad bought my Mother gifts after the birth of each of the five of us. One year it was a Cookery Book (romantic, huh, ;) ) ... eventually, after I was born he finally got her something way more practical ... a Washing Machine. LOL I'm sure she appreciated that way more than an Eternity Ring though.

Go with your gut feelings - if you want to buy your beloved an Eternity Ring - just do it!

[scuzz]

I always thought it was given on the silver wedding anniversary.

[auturmnsolaris]

Drat, I've missed out too. No kids, but we've had two anniversaries!

I guess the theme here is..to get an eternity ring, you have to wait an eternity! ;D

I'll be leaving this screen on for hubby to accidentally see..muhahaha!

[ocemeer]

hmm dont think I'll get an eternity ring then, being on my second wedding ring after 5 months of marriage dont think he would trust me with another ring (just had to have my engagement ring mended oops). Do you think I would get away with a new motorbike instead? ;D

[rushnowt]

I'm in lurve!!!!!!!!!!!!! !;) ;D

me too. what we doing wrong savvy ??? ??? ::) ::)

[Jodun]

If you have an engagement ring, wedding ring and an eternity ring in what order do you wear them?

[Squidgy]

I would wear it under my wedding ring, so that would be (from fingertip down) engagement ring, wedding ring, eternity ring.

[rushnowt]

If you have an engagement ring, wedding ring and an eternity ring in what order do you wear them?

Good question, ive never known the right way to wear them either :-/ ???

[Queenie]

If you have an engagement ring, wedding ring and an eternity ring in what order do you wear them?


From the base of my ring finger going up towards the tip:

Wedding Ring
Engagement Ring
Eternity Ring

However, find this link: http://www.24carat.co.uk/eternityringstoryframe.html which gives a history of the eternity ring, when to buy one, where to wear one.

HTH

[Savvy_Sue]

From the base of my ring finger going up towards the tip:

Wedding Ring
Engagement Ring
Eternity Ring
If I ever get one that's the way mine will have to go because it's way too much work to get my engagement ring off! But my engagement ring is such an unusual shape and colour I'm not sure I could get one to match so maybe I'd wear it on my right hand.

[Glad]

I wear mine
in order of putting on
wedding ring
eternity ring
engagement ring

but thats because thats how it looks best so really down to personal taste

[deedee]

I was always told that Eternity rings should be given on the birth of the 1st child. As we thought I would never have children my husband bought me one for our first anniversary. In this day and age I don't think there is really any convention for when to give an Eternity ring.

As to the order in which they should be worn the Wedding ring should be worn first on the inside (nearer the heart), then depending on the style of the rings the Engagement and Eternity can be worn any way round. My hubby has said he is going to buy me another ring for my 40th birthday. My engagement ring is 2 diamonds and a sapphire, my eternity is 2 emeralds and a diamond. The new one will be 4 stones including rubies and will sit snuggly between the other two. Aren't I a lucky lady? ;D

BTW I have a son who is 3 in six weeks and have been ttc number 2 for 2 1/2 years.

[Queenie]

If I ever get one that's the way mine will have to go because it's way too much work to get my engagement ring off! But my engagement ring is such an unusual shape and colour I'm not sure I could get one to match so maybe I'd wear it on my right hand.

My engagement ring is a sapphire/diamond "twist" - so it doesn't sit "flush" - however, it's the length of your finger which will determine if the 3 will sit comfortably really. the finger bone between the knuckle on my hand and the mid knuckle of my ring finger is long enough to fit them on without any problems (oooh, Gramma, wot big fingers you got!!) ;D
Ultimately though ... it's personal choice ;) ;D

[deedee]

If I ever get one that's the way mine will have to go because it's way too much work to get my engagement ring off! But my engagement ring is such an unusual shape and colour I'm not sure I could get one to match so maybe I'd wear it on my right hand.

Do what I did. My engagement ring from my first marriage was an odd shape so I got a small independant jeweller to make a wedding ring to fit round it.

My rings that I have now have been made by the same jeweller and are to my design and they cost me less than similar ones in the shops cost.

[Janeryan]

I wear mine the same as Glad.

Traditionally you should receive an eternity ring on the birth of your first child but like some others on this thread my husband must have felt that a year seemed like an eternity as I was given mine on our first anniversary!!

However he has managed to stick out a further 16 years so it can't have been SOOO bad ;D